keep meeting guys who are jerks

I was so excited over Christmas break in Ohio when a really cute guy I met at my 5 year high school reunion (who I never talked to in high school since he was in the popular group) started talking to me. I was thinking maybe I'll hit it off with this guy and maybe he'll treat me better than my ex. I have been single for 4 years. Anyways, he was talking to me and then e-mailed me on facebook the next day asking me out on a date. Unfortunately I could not go because of a family party I had to go to. The following day he had to drive back to where he works which is a 4 hour drive away. We agreed to hang out next time we are both in town or when he comes to visit in Florida (since his family has a condo here in FL and that's where I am now in professional school). So he would call me almost every day. He never got annoyed with me like my ex did. He said that I never bother him and he would always be willing to talk to me. We would text each other alot. He would say the sweetest things to me. He would say how when he comes to FL and things work out, he'd want to be in a relationship with me. He would say I'm cute and adorable. We talked about alot of things. I told him how I don't fool around with guys I'm not dating. He said he respects that. But we would still talk dirty to each other once in awhile.  He is going to be in FL this upcoming weekend for his brother's wedding and he was going to drive 2 hours (since my school is 2 hours from where the wedding is) to come see me some point during the weekend. We were both really excited for it. Well I haven't heard from him since Wednesday night. During Thursday I began to worry about him thinking something bad happened and I was texting him (maybe a little too much) telling him about my day, asking about his, and wondering where he was and telling him I was worried about him. I also called him twice.. but no answer. Then Friday I texted once, Saturday once and yesterday once asking if he's ok and if he still wants to come visit me. I sent him an e-mail today asking him to please let me know why he's not talking to me out of the blue. I also apologized for sending him alot of texts on Thursday but I said I was jus really worried about him. I don't know what to do. I hope nothing bad happened to him. Even if he got annoyed by me he should at least tell me he wants space and whether or not he still wants to come see me. I don't know what to do. I feel like it's my fault he's not calling. :-( I know guys don't like clingy girls but if I am used to hearing from a guy I like and they don't call me one day I immediately think of the worst due to my GAD. I'm so sad right now. I thought he was a nice guy. He told me he was a nice guy. Do you think he just wanted sex? I'm so confused and sad.

p.s. My ex is talking to me again after not talking to me for 3 months. I'm scared that the cycle will continue. I wonder if the guy from high school is similar to my ex?

Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 2/9/2009 5:42:02 PM (GMT-7)

i don't think he lost his phone. i think he just got scared that i worried too much. :-( i hope he calls me or responds to my e-mail. im so sad right now. we were both really looking forward to this coming weekend and he told me that if it worked out between us he would want me to be his girl.

Thanks Karen! I hope and pray too. I hope he calls me. It's been 5 days since he called me! :-(

Hi Confusedgirl,

I am feeling the same way as Confusedli.  I think you are a wonderful person and would love to see you feel more secure in yourself.

If this guy is ignoring you and refusing to return communication I say he is not worthy of you so let go of him and move on with your life.  It will be his loss...................

My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to.   :)

Hugs
Kitt

No, I don't think it's your fault because you guys had plans...So it only makes sense that you would contact him...Plus if you both were constantly texting eachother everyday, you would think he would expect it...And I don't think it was sufficating because it's only natural for you to worry when your used to hearing back from someone, so to me everything makes sense...I don't think it's fair that he just stopped talking to you but there's really nothing you can do...Try not to be so hard on yourself because it seems that this is on him...I'm sorry that your going through this, I know it's not easy just know that you are a good person and find the strength to realize it's not your fault...It will help you to move on and get through this to really know that the problem doesn't lie within you! Hang in there!

I agree with confusedi just forget about that guy unless he calls with a good excuse like losing his cell phone.You need to stop blaming yourself for everything or no guy will ever treat you right.I pray that you do not let your ex. back in to your life he has proven that he will never treat you the way that he should (with respect and caring).I feel that you still need to work on your self esteem a whole lot more before you add a man to your life.I am sorry if this hurts you but I only want to help you be a better person to yourself.

No I do not think it is your fault.........remember we cannot control another person.  If he turned tail and ran, let him go.

Do not belittle yourself for his behavior. 

The art of being wise is knowing what to overlook.~ William James

Take care and know we understand and support you.

Kitt

Post Edited (stkitt) : 2/15/2009 8:29:08 AM (GMT-7)

confused

I am glad you are feeling better and I suspect your feelings of being in the dumps were do to your anxiety over this young man.

Take care and get out now and enjoy life to the fullest. 

Best Wishes to you.

Kitt