In need of advice.

Welcome to HW!

We will take you seriously. I know what thats like. Im 17 and I was in your shoes, still am. But, without the support from this place, I wouldnt be doing as good as I am now, compared to what I could be like...

I felt the same way as you do, because of your age you think no one cares. I still think people dont take me as serious even though Im almost 18.

If you want to talk to someone who understands, Im here for you. You can email me, or talk on here, either way, I will do my best to be there for you. I understand, and I support you. Take Care

Hi LisaWond,

I really think that you should check out the youth group thing(?). You might end up liking it.

Tennis (Christi) can relate to you because she has been through a lot in the past couple of years that I know of. If you want to email her, go to her profile and get her address. I know that she can help you and she is so willing. I hope that you take advantage of that.

I hope that you start feeling better soon. The doctor probably doesn't want to put you on antidepressants yet, because of your age. But that is understandable. A lot of antidepressants can cause suicidal thoughts in young adults.

keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen

Lisa,

I am so happy that you are already feeling better. Depression is no fun especially at your age. You want to be happy as we all do. But I know that you can beat this. With our help and your doctor's help. I am glad that you are joining the youth group. It is a good way to make friends.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen

Lisa,
I was just curious, are your parents supportive? Do they believe that you're truly depressed, and not just going through a phase?

I'm glad you are already feeling like you're not alone. This place is great! There's always someone who responds to your post, and everyone here truly cares.

Hang in there!

Im glad you dont feel so alone anymore. We are all here for you whenever you need to vent. Talking helps alot, especially when the person/people understand. I experienced depression at your age, but it wasnt as severe as it is now, or used to be.

I take Paxil for mine. I went to my doctor and told him, he gave me one thing that worked at first, but stopped after a month or two so I switched. I think I need a dose change for my Paxil, but I've started seeing a therapist so Im going to wait and see if she can help me also, without having to up the dosage.

I was also wondering about your parents. As about 2 years ago I told my mom and she told me it was normal, just a phase, something everyone had. (I dont know about your family, but mine is not close AT ALL) And one day we seen a show about a girl who cut herself and it scared me because I kept thinking "if I dont get help I'll end up like her" so I begged my mom to let me see a therapist or something, a doctor whatever. She still insisted it was nothing. One day I said to her "what if I end up like that girl(the one who cut herself)?" and she got a "mad sounding tone" and said to me "if you dont stop talking crazy Im going to pack your bags and send you somewhere".... After that I never mentioned it again.

So, I have done everything I have without the support of my parents. Who are only now taking an interest in it, because they know I am seeing a therapist. I couldnt wait til I was 16 and could drive myself, I felt that was the freedom and independence I needed to get myself help. And its worked out. I call the doctor, get refills, drive myself, go to the pharmacy, go to therapy and all that, by myself. At your age, thats not really possible. SO, you need to find someone you can talk to.

I think that would help alot. Maybe an aunt or cousin..an older friend or someone you trust that you think will take you seriously. That person can take you to the doctor.. My therapist, where I go, I noticed a sign that said anyone under 13 would have to have someone with them, but you are older than that, so its possible for you to see someone if you need to, as far as I know....

I tried to talk to my mom. It didnt work, so I decided for now not to share anything with my parents. Although, my dad seen something I wrote on here one day and he was upset that I felt I couldnt talk to him about it. But, I prefer doing things by myself, and one day I will share everything with them, when I feel its the right time.

I have done all this without my parents... BUT, I could NEVER have done it without support from others. Everyone on here kept me going.. and some friends I talked with. So, you need to have support, and we can provide some of that, but try someone you can talk to in real life.

Anyways, I have to go, I hope this helps. Take Care

things are going pretty well with her. She is pretty cool! its not like I thought it was going to be like because its a serious matter, but at the same time we can laugh about it...

Yes, I did have a hard time with them... Still do, but they are more interested now that they know Im going by myself to a mental place to see a therapist! Perhaps it takes that much to convince them that something is "really" wrong with me.

That is true. doctors are very cautious about prescribing a-d to anyone under 18. But, they also consider your weight and such also. I was only 16 when I started taking meds, but Im the size of someone older so I think that helped some.

I understand, I havent old anyone in my family, except an older brother. But, I couldnt go to my parents, or an aunt or anyone else. I just feel like I "cant" tell them. I would be way to scared and everything. But, I also talked to my school counselor for over a year! She helped some also. But, I was limited to what I could say. They are required to tell if you say anything about hurting yourself or someone else, or someone else that is hurting someone. So, I had to stay quiet about the serious stuff, cutting, pills, etc.

We are not supposed to talk about self harm or suicide or anything on here, but if its okay that I ask... have you thought about or actually done anything of that nature? (i think thats a safe way to ask) If you felt more comfortable, we could just talk about it in an email. I will tell you all about myself (my story), if you wish.

Your very welcome, its what we do here. This website serves as a place for people to support one another in there time of need. And you can use all the support you can get!

I hope things are going good your way. Almost lunchtime here at school so I better get off! Take Care  

hey,
aw thats good. and well at least your parents now kind of understand i suppose .
and yes thats exactly how i feel like i "cant" tell them like i wouldnt know what to say etc.
and yes its fine if you ask me , and yeah i have sort of tried . you?
i would like to get to know you and hear you story, so i added you on msn :)

also where you from?
im from london so i dont know any other time zones lol.
take care,
lisa
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I am sorry Lisa, but we are not suppose to talk about these topics on the forum.  But you and Christi can discuss in private in email or whatever.  Thanks in advance for understanding.

Hugs, Karen

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 3/5/2009 4:27:13 PM (GMT-7)

My parents dont understand because they dont know anything about what I have experienced or anything...they only know that I take medicine, go to doctors, and see a therapist! lol
I wouldnt know what to say to my parents either... I'd probably freak out and run away crying if I had to sit them down and tell them! lol

Karen is correct, we arent supposed to discuss it here. I tried to ask in a way that you didnt have to explain, I was only curious. But, we can talk about it privately. And to answer your question simply, yes, I have. (we can talk about the rest later!)

Im from the U.S. Alabama to be exact! Im sorry, its okay, I dont even know my own time zone! lol Pretty cool that you are from London! I've wanted to go there. Actually, I've always to go anywhere! I'd love to travel around and see the world!

Well, its late here, I should be in bed, but I had some work to do and I need time to study for a test before I fall asleep. Talk to ya later
Take Care

Lisa,

I am always available to try and help you and I do understand your system of medicine is a bit different then ours.  I have some very good online friend from the UK.

I have been to London and loved it, what a wonderful city and the art gallery.............the best in my mind.

You just keep on knowing you will get better with time and  lots of support from us.

Bless you sweetie.

Kitt