i think i am over edge

Hi lostangel,

I am sorry that you are going through so much right now. I think if you want to do the best thing for your mom, you should try to stick out school. It is so important that you get an education. I know that she would be so proud of you.

I can't picture you messing everything up. Know that you are a special and unique person and play a very important role in life. You are loved by many. Keep trying and keep posting. Are you going through any counseling right now? That might make you feel better. I think that you need the support and all. It would help you with your self esteem and teach you how important you are.

Keep posting, I am glad that your mom suggested this forum.

Take care,
Hugs, Karen

It is great that you decided to try this. The people are so kind and do understand what you are going thru.

School is so hard. Like Gettingby said, it would totally make your mom happy.

Sorry to hear about your grandma not doing well. there is a lot to deal with at once. Wow. I'm glad I made it past teenager, it can be challenging in so many ways but now that it is way past for me there were good things too. Friends ect. When I feel the worse I try to appreciate some good things in my life and it gives me perspective. ei.I don't live in a war zone, I have a cool toothbrush and yummy toothpaste, My zits are less than normal, you get the picture I'm sure.

It sounds like you are trying to improve and don't give up!! There are troubles everywhere we just have to climb over them or get under them or break thru them.

 Hi there--I can fully understand how you feel, your dilemmas.  I remember when I was your age and began having all signs symptoms of depression but I took the wrong path to deal with everything.  I kept messing up over and over and back then the mental health system was almost non-existant.  Lots of close people tried to help me but I didn't listen seemed bent on a destructive path.  Now looking back, I'm 53, I can see 20-20 and how if ONLY I'd listened to them, taken meds, been totally putting my health and sanity first AND learning everything I could about depression and coping strategies.  Yes it took me far too many years of floundering not caring enough about myself .  Maybe what you can do is try and project yourself 10 or 20 years into the future and see yourself looking BACK at now and then saying to yourself.....'how did I do, what did I do that had the best results for me"  ?  Feel yourself at 30 yrs old and where you want to be and how much youve grown and learned.  The answers and crucial insight come from within YOU.  Your inner wisdom knows what to do.  I'll check to see how your doing.  Take care

Hi Angel,

I'm so sorry for the pain you are going through. It is an overwhelming experience to have so many struggles at one time. My mom was my best friend, too, so I can understand how worried you are, and how much you care for her. And I can tell how sad you are about your grandma, too. (((hugs)))

This is all an awful lot to deal with at any age, and the fact that you are here posting about it is a great step towards coping with it all. I think Kitt is right about counselling.....I know it has sure helped me a lot. She's also right about trying to put your mistakes behind you. None of us....and I do mean none of us....are perfect. We have all done things that we regret, and we have all done things we are not proud of. However, our mistakes do not define who we are. We always have a chance to move forward and do better, and that is certainly true for you!

What Karen said about taking one day at a time is also so true. Just focus on today, and trying to get through this one day. Take things in small steps.....hour by hour if necessary. Have you thought about maybe talking to a counselor at school about all that you're going through? I know you said your grades are bad, and I'm wondering if the school will cut you some slack and offer you some assistance once they know the circumstances.

You are in our thoughts and prayers, Angel, and we are all here to support you. Bless you.

Crying is actually cleansing. But when it interfers with your everyday life, then you need to talk to somebody. You should be happy growing up so this isn't right. Please talk to a counselor, even a school counselor. I think the support would do you good.

And of course, keep posting here and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen

Hi, lost angel. Reaching out for professional help can be scary, but it can help. Your family doctor could be a start, or social worker or counsellor at school. Yes, your mom will be involved because of your age, and that's a good thing, because she loves you. She may not be well, but it sounds like your not feeling well, either. And you deserve help, too. The professionals in Mental Health are there for you, as are your family and friends.

Keep us posted on your progress. Wishing you the best.

I too am sorry for your troubles. the good thing is you are young and it is NEVER too late to make things better. stay in school because if you drop out, you WILL regret it. there are programs at school that will help you catch up rather quickly, just ask. also, talk to a counselor or see a doctor regarding your feelings of depression. you will beat this, so hang in there. being young is trail and error.

You will be able to endure this, just slow down and take your time doing things. I hope that the pain isn't too bad.

Don't give up on us. You can handle this. You are a lot stronger than you think that you are.

Hugs, Karen

Hi Lostangel,

Sorry to hear about your foot .  How did you do that dear Angel?

I really think your Mom could be your best friend right now and she has the power and the wisdom to know how to help you get back to counseling.  Tell her a bit of what you share with us and as a Mother I am sure she senses what is going on. 

Please do not isolate yourself from the world.  Crying can be very good.  I let out the tears as with them the sadness washes away and that is a good thing.

Do keep us posted.

Gentle Hugs my young friend.

Kitt

Angel,

Sorry to hear you have a serious problem...............would you like to share with us what is going on with your foot?

Hugs
Kitt

wats goin on wit my foot...well i am infection on my bone i havent been able to go to school which grades have went down big time

Heej Angel!

I hope your foot is doing better right now.

School can be awful, especially when your grades are dropping, but is school the most important thing there is? By no means I want to convince you to stop or do less, but not getting the best grades won't make you "lesser" than anyone else. I think the most important thing is that you are trying. Just do the things as best as you can, and the result wouldn't mind that much as you know you did what you had to do. Also, there can be days you just can't convince yourself to do homework. Don't beat yourself up on those days. If you can't, you can't, and there is absolutely no shame in that.

We tend to focus on the endstation of everything (like grades), while it can be so much better to focus on the road towards that (the learning part, or the not-learning-because-it-just-wont-happen part). The road we takes decides with what grades we end. And there isn't a thing as a "wrong" road. And I can tell you, this happens just the same with people who get good grades. The people at my school who get the best grades with the least effort are unhappy as well. Those who get high, or low, grades while doing the best they can, those people are the happiest. They can tell themselves they did all they could, and be at peace with the result.

And these roads aren't just for school, they can be applied to everything in life. Please don't beat yourself up because other have "more" than you do. There roads might be flat and easy to walk, whilst yours can have a lot of pitfalls and cliffs in it. They might even be unable to do your road when they have to.

And even more importantly, remember that there are so many people out there who love you for who you are!

I am sorry if this doesn't help you very much, I suck a bit at giving practical advise (ask Karen for that ).

But all the very best Angel, and take care!!

Erik