I have some more questions to those who have been depressed.

You have seen my posts in the past but everday is a struggle for me . I have been trying to be a supportive husband and have been doing alright but the last few months have been a rollercoaster of emotions for me. My wife actually has her last class tonight. We have been spending time together going out t o dinner and family time . She is going to push to see a counciler now with school out. The thing that is killing me is there is still no intimacy and she is still sleeping in a diffrent room. I know the core problem is she has self esteem issues about her weight. She feels that I have not been attracted to her for many years . The truth is I have always been very attracted to her. She doesnt beleive me . She says she has no desire for intimcy and I was wondering if that was a common symptom of  being depressed. This question is to those wives that told me that they put there supportive husbands through the rollercoaster of the ride we call depression.On the positive side I have seen seen my wife smile more and she is now showing signs of worrying about how I feel. I just dont want to make her more depressed after going so far but now I just have to constantly stop myself from wanting to push her too fast. I never pushed the intimacy  issue because I was always working 6 or 7 days a week or she was buried in school work. I thought that I was being a good husband getting us ahead and not pushing her  because she was so busy with school . It was never that I wasnt attracted to her. Nothing I say or do will convince her how much I am attracted to her. She says she has no doubts that I love her. I dont know if she will ever desire the intimacy again or if I will just live out my life with my wife as my roomate . She got upset for saying maybe I should move out which I really dont want . She said later that me saying that made her very anxious .I really just want her to be happy and if I am really the root of her being unhappy then I willdo what she wants. I told her this and she got a little mad and said thank you for telling me what I want when I dont even know myself. For now I am still hanging in there.Thank you for any advice in advance.

Dear Cowboy Up,

You posted "She is going to push to see a counciler now".

I think that is great and I hope that you will consider that a positive move. Try not to take her behavior  as a reflection on you.  She has depression and she is feeling very vulnerable so give her time to heal and practice staying out of the anticipatory anxiety thinking.............."I dont know if she will ever desire the intimacy again or if I will just live out my life with my wife as my roomate."

Take it one day at a time and pray for professional counseling to help with your wife's depression. 

You have my support.

Kitt