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Am i over-reacting
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Posted 6/7/2009 9:51 AM (GMT 0)
Hey there, i don't know what to do, am i over-reacting, my partner was meant to be doing a tattoo on me tonight ( been put off for days now ), he has done heaps on my brothers, my sister, and his mate, when people are around he is VERY keen to jump on the guns and start tattooing, but now that its just me and him he keeps putting it off, well i think i know where i stand, does he just do it for attention infront of those other people or what, i mean im his girlfriend and he can't even keep his word to me and do my tattoo, please help, im in a bad mood and im treating him like shyt and i don't want to say why because he should know why im grumpy..........
Posted 6/7/2009 12:49 PM (GMT 0)
are you sure this is about tatoos or is there more to it, is it about getting attention from your bf?
Posted 6/7/2009 2:19 PM (GMT 0)
BoUnCeBaBy

Welcome to HealingWell and I suspect there is more to your story than what you have shared here.  I think perhaps you have reacted to your partners not recognizing your needs and your sensitivity has kicked in so you are fighting back because you do not know how else to handle your feelings.

Well this is a great place to look for advice.  How about you share a bit more re what is going on in your life and if you have a problem with depression?

We are here to listen. Gentle Hugs and again a warm welcome.


Kitt

Posted 6/8/2009 2:35 AM (GMT 0)
Hello again,

I have been diagnosed with depression, post border line, anxiety, obsesive compulsive, and anger issues. I think "jealous" is a way to put it, it did make me hurt when he didnt want to do my tattoo, i think felt hurt because he didnt want to put the time and effort into something for me but i was very keen to do it for anyone else. I find it hard to talk to people when they have upset me instead i go on the defence and treat them like they have just committed a big crime. It's nice to know that people on here are willing to open the ears and listen to what i have to say and hopefully help with some of my problems. Thanks heaps.
Posted 6/8/2009 10:37 AM (GMT 0)
hi bouncebaby.

sounds like u both need some time alone for a talk, or as we say in australia, a dnm. deep and meaningful. all the best, jamie, male 37, mdd, severe borderline personality disorder. only you can answer those voting questions.

Posted 6/8/2009 4:42 PM (GMT 0)
Hi BoUnCeBaBy, and welcome to the forum. it is a sad think what you are goning through and how you feel jealous from your boyfriend. did you ask him why? maybe he just postoned it and forgot about it. I think open discussion between partners in a relationship is important. and if he says he wants to do it but just doesn't have the time right now be patient with him and try to give him the time he needs, after all drawing tatos is an art and needs a lot of time and effort, and if he is not in the mood he won't be able to do it. remember it's only a tatoo, what else has he offered you in the relationship? does he do other things that could make-up for that? maybe you are a little over-reacting. I'm sorry if you feel offended by what I have to say it's only my thoughts, and maybe others have different views on this subject. but I feel a tatoo could be a small thing in the relationship and he can give you many others thinks, like time and love that you also need. I hope that he will do the tatoo soon so that this issue will be closed, but due talk to him about it and share what you feel, remind him, maybe he doesn't know how you feel. you don't have to tell him how jealus you are just mention that you want the tatoo make sure he knows what you want. good luck to you and I hope you find a way to heal from all the things you suffer from.
Posted 6/8/2009 7:47 PM (GMT 0)
i agree w jamiee, deep & meaningfull is best, you need that attention from your bf, no distractions. good luck!!! <3
Posted 6/8/2009 9:12 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Bounce, Like Queen Bea said, I wonder if there is more to this. Is your partner being attentive to you in other ways, or is this just one example of him making promises that he doesn't keep? I think you need to ask yourself if this is an isolated thing, or if your partner is dismissing your needs and ignoring you in other ways. I hope you will come back and post some more......it sounds like you're hurt, and this is a great place to come for comfort.
Posted 6/9/2009 8:20 PM (GMT 0)

Hmm, since u r asking, I think u know best and already know the answer. We don't know the full story.

Is it about being put in the back, while you should take precedence?

I would expect my bf or husband to put me first, for sure. I don't think it's all about what he's done in the past, we don't know, but if this is an indication, it doesn't sound right.

I am a sensitive and a tad needy and if my husband told me he was going to do this and left me hanging and did others befor me, I would be hurt, I know it.

You asked our opinion, and that's my answer.

I had a friend that wouldn't go out of he way to find her husband's favorite  aftershave and picked up anything. Personally, that said a lot to me. I would go out of my way to find it.

I'm a christian but this is in the bible and came to mind, "he who is not faithful in a little, will not be faithful in a lot". In other words, if a person doesn't do the little things, what can you expect from that person in the bigger things.

Hope I made sense.

My best to u.

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