just WOW ...

I was chatting in the Depression room, and I am very disappointed.

I would like to caution you all not to make light of anyone else's problems.  That's really hurtful. 

It's very disrespectful to tell someone they are a "baby" for their reactions to certain situations. 

Even if you could deal with it no problem, how can you tell what someone you don't know can or can't handle. 

Especially, don't do this after you have encouraged someone to share their problems with you.

Just take a moment to think about these things.   How would you feel if someone acted like that towards you?  The point of this forum is to be supportive, not to disencourage someone. 

If you're going to say something negative to someone on this forum or chat,  please at least try to phrase it in a way that is not insulting or demeaning.

I'm purposely not bringing names into this, as this post is not designed to get back at anyone, rather to make you all think about what you say before you say it.  This is not the first time I have had someone be rude to me on this chat ... but it is by far the worst.

I'm getting off my soapbox now ... but I hope you have been given some things to think about.  

i would like to defend myself and say that I didn't mean "YOU" were a baby I meant to say that one is a baby if they get depressed over a husband leaving on a business trip for two weeks. I feel like that is a regular and normal occurence and nothing one should get upset about, and actually was trying to make you feel better over the fact that you don't have any severe problems to be depressed over if that is the case. Now, you mentioned your situation was a little different so then I said clearly that I now understand why you would be upset.

I purposefully left names out of this post ...
I would just like to encourage EVERYONE who uses this forum to think about what they say.
One might think they're being encouraging, but if it comes off like they are making light of someone else's problems ... that's the wrong answer.
Maybe one person's problems don't seem like something someone else would consider depression-worthy ... however, if that one person is depressed about their problems, it's wrong to tell them they shouldn't be depressed.
The only reason anyone should tell another person they shouldn't be depressed over a situation is if they are a medical professional treating that person, or perhaps if they are a close friend or family member who knows that person well.
Someone who has only spoken to someone thorugh a forum for a few minutes has no business telling that person that he or she has no serious problems.
While it may be true that our situations could be worse, that fact does not negate what we feel about our problems and how they affect us.

WCC,
We have been having problems with banned members (repeated rule violators, who have abused other members) coming back to chat, just so they can abuse more people. That we need to stop, hence why I ask you to email me ([email protected]), any other forum moderator, or admin the problem members name. It would also help if you could tell us what day and time it occured and what time zone you are in.
Thanks,
Navy

:)

The problem is we have chatters who never post or read the forum. Plus like I said there are some who just are there because they enjoy abusing people. That is not right and we need to stop that right way.

lol ... well I mean a lot of people might think that "I'm depressed because I miss my man." is pretty pathetic. I get lots of practice holding my tongue around my bosses and co-workers LOL. It's very important not to make assumptions about someone else's situation and to really control your phrasing when talking in a text-based medium where people can't hear your tone of voice and pick up all the non-verbal cues that are present in face-to-face communication.

your husband will be back before you know it and your reunion will make you forget all the sadness you felt.

WCC and Harleysmith,
First to WCC and to all here. Often times with depression what seem like NORMAL occurrences or situations to some can be hurtful and sadness causing to others. Please do not judge. You do not know what it is like to be in anyone's shoes but your own. To harleysmith: please keep that in mind.
all the best
FS

Good Morning All,

I have been off line for 3 whole days and I am so sorry I am just getting to this post now.

I think that a good point has been made, questions have been asked and answered. 

Let us move on with the wonderful support and caring that makes this such a great forum.

My email is always open so if anyone has any issues they want to discuss privately they may email myself or another Moderator and we are more then willing to listen.

Navy is great about moderating in the chat rooms.  Please do remember that just because the chat room is named Depression it is still open to anyone that wants to chat so anyone can pop in.

The forums may be a bit safer if your chat room shy. :)

I will admit that I am not a big chat person. I will pop into the chat room to meet some of you  from now on.

Thanks and warm hugs to all.

Kitt