Hi Jamiee.
You certainly are a great and caring friend to your neighbors. They are so lucky to have you around to check in and help them and they must be so appreciative of your efforts. I, for one, also agree in following your gut instincts. Mine are usually right on target and the few times that I have ignored them I realized the hard way that I shouldn't have. Besides, it sounds like if and when you are ready to see the lady, that she will probably still be around. As you are doing, you need to make sure you are taking care of yourself and putting your own needs first. And this should certainly reinforce to her that she should also put your needs in priority status as well.
Get some rest and take care!
Cass