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Posted 9/1/2009 10:24 AM (GMT 0)
hey,

im 16

i have no job, no home , no future, no family!

and feel completely numb inside, some days i forget about my worries, but others, i get so upset 

 no1 understands im 16 my mum kicked me out! she hates me, i have no family! i feel so alone!

i seem to always feel ill, and always cry, i dont understand why tho? i get rushed into hospital, but seem to never find whats wrong!

i went to the doctor on waiting list to see a counselior, but ive got the to the point where i feel i cant cope, my appetite has faded, i never seem to enjoy life like i did before! 

just want some advice on what to do x cry

 

 

Post Edited (lonely1001) : 9/3/2009 3:34:26 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 9/1/2009 2:17 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Lonely,

I can only imagine what it is like to have no home or job. Where do you stay? Where do you go at night?

You are too young to be out on your own with no resources. I think you should go to your local social services and explain your situation and they will help you to find a home and get a job. I guess in this situation you would want to be your own advocate and sign up for help. So please check with them and see what kind of help you can get.

I didn't think your mom could kick you out of the home at your age. She is responsible for you. Has she given up on you? Did she say why? Are you not in school? At your age you should still be in school. Why are you not? I know that I have a lot of questions, but this doesn't sound right. And in order for us to help you, we need the answers. There must be a reason your mom has kicked you out. Please tell us about it. And why you are not in school. You need an education to make it in this world. It isn't easy without one.

Please fill us in with the details.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 9/1/2009 3:52 PM (GMT 0)

Karen is right honey.  Go to Social Services, get all the help you can to get back in school, find a place to live, employment help, help with food until you can get on your feet.  You are a teenager, I assure you, you will have good times ahead but it sounds like you need to do some work at the moment to get yourself in a good place.  Seek free Legal advice, whatever it takes.  I am sure you are feeling abandoned, anyone would.  I had a very cold hearted mom and all she wanted was me out of the house.  She never told me she loved me, or hugged me or gave me any encouragement.  I know how empty and alone that feelings is, so, when I had children, I kissed them everyday, read stories to them every night, told them I loved them everyday (even when they were teenagers and we did not always agree), I always encouraged them to do their best, love themselves and be kind to other people.  In some ways I feel I made up for her emotional neglect of me by not continuing her style.  Anywho, tap all your helpful resources, hopefully you will start feeling better soon.  There are people who care and this forum is full of them.  When you get on your feet, you will feel better.

Take care,

Gem

Posted 9/1/2009 4:04 PM (GMT 0)

lonely,

Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression Forum.  I am sorry you are feeling so sad and lost.  You have received wonderful advice from others.

I would just like to post a link for you that may be helpful as it is for teens and has much information and support:

Nineline

http://nineline.org/

Take care and do reach out for help.

Kitt

Posted 9/2/2009 12:38 PM (GMT 0)
keep safe. get as much help as you can. jamie.
Posted 9/3/2009 9:41 AM (GMT 0)
thank you for all the comments

i've left school, im meant to go to college, but i got rubbish grades, so i dont want to go

we started rowing over me finding a job.. she said i had two weeks to find a job.. or else to pack my bags and leave.. at the mo im stayin at my boyfriends house. but we keep arguing and tbh i cant't cope.. my dad has nothing to do with me .. i see him once a week
ive been on the council, but they have done bugger all,

just given up on my self really x
Posted 9/3/2009 11:15 AM (GMT 0)
please remember that you are a precious person of this earth, with gifts and talents unique to only you. good times will happen again. life at times can suck, been there, but it gets better. we are here for you, stay safe, and take care of you. with loving compassion. jamie.

ps. 37 yrs of age, and back at school!!! was in uni 2000-2001, got sick, yeah i dropped out in year 10. (15 yrs of age) now have an adv diploma, 2 yrs of a 3 yr degree, other certificates, numerous amounts of volunteer exp and training, over 10 yrs worth, an excellent cv and an excellent and diverse employment history.

so you can bounce back, i did, still bouncing though, but that is life!

dx, mdd, severe borderline personality disorder

Posted 9/3/2009 1:12 PM (GMT 0)
Heeja,

Just dropping in to say that you aren't what you say you are. You are worth just as much as everyone else, and have the basic rights to happiness as everyone else has. You are 16, so there has to be something that can help you, a social institution or so. I'm sorry I can't be of any help there, as I only know how it works in the Netherlands. Here, we have special schools for those who have trouble learning, I think you would fit the bill. Maybe there is something similar in the country you live in. Worth finding out I think!

All the very best my friend!

Erik
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