Defense...

Any advice on how to not be on the defense all the time...I have been told from a loved one that I always seem to be on the defense and lately I feel as I have been keeping my attitude under control and biting my tongue where necessary, but maybe there is another technique to helping see/control that kinda thing? Any tips?

Thanks!
Shea, 21
Not sure whats wrong just yet!

Well...I do feel vulnerable with my relationship but thats normal I guess when you try to open up fully to someone... So maybe if I accept that and let my guards down that will go away... I just feel as if Im being attacked a lot but I say I just have a very aggressive, honest, blunt personality so people just take me harder than I intend to come off. I am willing to listen to constructive critisism but I usually like to have my opinion in also to be on the same page with people and that gets taken wrongly...I've been trying to moderate my personality a bit to not come off so angry but I tend to look at thing in a negaitve perspective and thats hard to crack!