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Posted 10/31/2009 4:06 PM (GMT 0)
I'm just so sad and depressed all the time that people avoid me and I can't make any new friends. My old friends are leaving me and I still have 2 more years in that school and I don't want to be alone.
My old friends are still together even though they're in different high schools. They're going to malls and going Halloween together but didn't invite me. I have relationship problems with my mom. She doesn't understand me. And my cousins used to live with us and our house became so lively and fun but they've bought a new house and I'll be alone with my mom in our house now. My school grades are bad no matter how much I try my best. My teachers don't like me because I'm quiet and don't participate. I have skin problem so it lowers my mood and self-esteem even more and I'm scared to see my friends and know that they mind about it now. They go to church so they see each other on Sundays. I used to go too but I was still not very happy there. I want to go to be with my old friends and let things be how they used to be but I can't do it. None of my old friends are telling me to go to church when they used to. I'm being forgotten and to them, I'm labeled as "no friends in hs and a loser" Back then, I was liked by almost everyone in my class but now, no one even notices me. I hate being shy and then my voice won't come out. I hate my life.

Sorry for the edit, but we are not suppose to discuss suicide sweetie.

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 10/31/2009 11:39:04 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 10/31/2009 5:48 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Depression_here,

I am so sorry for what you are going through.  I know how hard it is to be young and struggling with depression.  It isn't easy, I know.  I had to deal with that too.

Do you have a family doctor that you can see?  I would recommend talking to him.  Maybe getting a physical and make sure there isn't anything else going on.  Also you could let them know that you are depressed and they might hook you up with some medication or counseling.

Another thought might be to talk to your school counselor.  They can be very helpful. 

What kind of activities do you like?  There are many things that you can do to meet other people and maybe make some new friends.  That is always an option.  I know that it is har d to lose friends that you have known for a long time, but there is a lot of living for you yet to do and you will meet many new people.

Why dont' you just go to chruch on your own.  I am sure when you are there that your friends will talk to you.  You don't need an invitation, just go.

Here are some resources for you to check out:

http://www.teencentral.net/

http://nineline.org/

http://forums.teenhelp.org/

http://www.teenhut.net/

http://teencentral.net/

I hope that this helps you some.  Keep posting, as we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen

Posted 10/31/2009 6:19 PM (GMT 0)
Forget about how you feel about friends. People are going to be people and you nor I can change them. I went thru depression and medicine wont get you out of it that you will stay out of it. Get out of the house and get around people whether or not you know them. Go someplace and get a cup of coffee -if you drink coffee, go to the all famous WalMart or any place to be around other people. Talk to people when you get out....don't think about they will not want to talk to you....let them decide that ...don't do it for them. It works. Surprisingly there are people out there just wanting someone to break the ice and talk to them. Talk about anything but yourself.....Find a good church that preaches God's word. You can overcome the problem and you will see that it is not as great as you thought it was. Get your mind off yourself and this is the best way to do it. I have been through it and I know. Quit feeling sorry for yourself...that just brings more of it on.
Posted 10/31/2009 7:29 PM (GMT 0)
I know that I should quit it but I just can't. All these pointless thoughts that come to my head. My past, mistakes, regrets, etc. Everything. I can sometimes manage to get them out of my head by thinking other stuff but they don't exactly make me into optimistic, okay?

I will meet new people but they won't want to know me more. Not when I'm like this
Posted 11/1/2009 7:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hi... if you dont mind me asking, how old are you?

I ask because I have been where you are. And I know you probably think you are the only one who has been through what you have been through, but you would be surprised. I have been there. Im 18 and I graduated from HS this past May and I am now in college.

HS was not all sunshine and puppies for me. Actually, it was more tornadoes and black holes. If that makes sense. I hated high school because I was so quiet. I used to be very lively and out-going in school, a leader. But, I just stopped talking... I had "friends" sort of... they were there but since I didnt talk..it was like I had lost everyone anyways... They stopped asking me to do things with them because they knew I would never do anything. I always felt too down to do anything but be incredibly lazy and pity myself... etc.

I thought everything was so pointless. And (we cant talk about certain things on here), but to be vague, I had negative thoughts a lot of the time as well. I started doing really bad in school, and to be honest, Im not doing all that great in college because I simply cant focus on stuff and I never feel up to doing anything, even my work.

I dont want to make this really long, I will let you decide what you think and if you want to talk more just let me know. Keep posting and we will help you out. If you want, you can email me by clicking on my name, just be sure to tell me you are from HW. I want you to know, you are NOT alone. And you CAN get through this. And we will try to help you and encourage you as much as we can. Let us know how you are doing..

Take Care,
Christi
Posted 11/2/2009 10:06 AM (GMT 0)
cool  hello Depression_Here,

I would like to say i'm very sorry that you are feeling so terrible at this time. I also have had chronic depression for over 20yrs and my daughter who is 22yrs old has got a personality disorder,bi-polar11,post traumatic stress disorder and she hear's voices to, so i truly understand where your coming from sweetie. If you ever need to vent,pls dont hesitate to send me an email which is in my profile ok. Stay strong,try some councelling and maybe you do need some medication for a short while?? Pls keep us posted ok.

 

best wishes to you,

 

beverley.c. smurf smurf smurf

 

p.s. hope you are sleeping well??????? smurf smurf smurf smurf smurf smurf smurf smurf

Posted 11/6/2009 1:22 AM (GMT 0)
I don't really want to vent because every time I do, I get disappointed. I want to change. It's just that I can't. I can't help it but I mind everything people say and do to me. Almost a week, after I posted this, my week started good (: For some reason, all my close friends(from elementary who go to my hs) ate lunch all together. It was nice and I was happy, you know? But today, it was just 2 guys and me. It wasn't nice because everything I said, one of the guys would imitate me and stuff and would just shut me off. I didn't like it because he was one of the guys I could talk easily. Also, I talked with one of my elementary school friends and she started going to church right after I stopped. I didn't like that at all. I don't want to think about it but when we were in elementary school, she was always copying me, she was always cheerful so everyone liked her better. I hated that because she was my bf and I don't know when she started copying me and it felt like she was erasing my existence. To me, she was a better me that I could never be because my emotions always showed no matter how much I tried to hide it. I know she's not me, she's she but when people look at us, they'd always be attracted to her like she was the light and I was the dark and no one would notice me.
So, I was talking with her and I know I shouldn't have but I did. I hinted to her bout church and hoped she'd tell me to go but she didn't. I was the only that was talking and she only said one word after I was done and I couldn't keep the convo going. I feel that all my friends are having a better hs life than I am. I hardly made any new friends and I get anxious about everything that's around me.
I think I just vented...
Posted 11/6/2009 2:23 AM (GMT 0)
Yes sweetie,

You just vented, and I hope that it made you feel better because that is what it is all about.  I think that your friends might be jealous of you.  You can go to church without an invitation.  It is there for everybody.

Try not to worry so much about the boys either.  They probably didn't know what to say so they did that.  They could be self conscious.  You never do know what is going on in somebody elses head. 

If you feel the need to vent more, do so.  That is what we are here for.

Hugs, Karen

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