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Posted 12/10/2009 11:25 AM (GMT 0)
My partner doesnt even want a relationship and doesnt know whether she want me around!!! I am bending over backwards to please her and getting nothing in return.

I pushed her into a wall and punched a door through knowing thats her worse fear!!!!!! she now has clinical depression and doesnt know what she wants should I go or should i help support her through it as i dont know whats best!!!!

She feels like i betrayed her trust and everything i do seems to irrate her!!!!!

And at what point do i consider me?????

we recently went through a misscarraige and i couldnt deal with it got depressed and was acting irrationally she is in a right mess what do i do????

Posted 12/10/2009 6:23 PM (GMT 0)
Lee,

I would consider anger management. I am sure that you really scared her. Talk to your doctor about that. Hopefully you two can work things out.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/10/2009 6:36 PM (GMT 0)
i have already seen the doctor bout my issues he has refered me to anger management and given me anti depressants I was more on about to help my partner do i go or do i stay as she is sure what she wants??
and this seems really selfish but what about what i need???????
Posted 12/10/2009 7:43 PM (GMT 0)
Lee,

You have gotten some excellent feedback about this issue in your other two threads. Everyone seems to suggest you stick it out and live with the consequences of your outburst if you truly want to save this relationship. Only you will know if that isn't going to work for you. She's going to need time to deal with the trauma she's been through recently (the miscarriage and the fight.) Again, let me suggest therapy for you both.

serafena
Posted 12/10/2009 11:54 PM (GMT 0)
I think therapy would help but I also know that living with someone who constantly irritates you (even though you love them) can add even more stress to the situation. you may want to consider giving her some space and staying with a nearby friend or relative for a few days while still going to therapy with her or calling once a day or once every other day to check up and see if she's feeling better or needs anything.
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