My Pathetic Life..

I'm a 42yr old single female who's suffering miserably from depression because of my life experience that was so pathetic..  I've been ridiculed & mistreated most of my life.  In my past life I was always picked on at school, got hit by my parents a lot even as an adult..  I've been back stabbed by people who I thought where my friends.  I never experience a sexual relationship because I always get rejected ever since High School.  Recently I was going out with a guy that I work with for a while thinking I was finally going to have a sexual relationship until I found out he was GAY!  I was so devastated..  I'm 42 & I'm still living with my mother & sister.  I'm a loner, I have no friends, no social life.  I've never suceed in anything, always been a failure..  I've been through therapists but none of them helped me.  I've become bitter, I ignore or curse people out whenever they get on my nerves, I developed a bitter attitude, I've become very unfriendly because of this BS I've been through in my life.  I wake up every morning asking myself if I deserve to be alive.   My life is filled with nothing but disappointment and misfortune.  I don't know how much more of this I can take.. 

Post Edited (BlueJustine) : 2/24/2010 1:53:22 PM (GMT-7)

Hi Bluejustine,

Welcome to the HealingWell depression forum. I am so glad that you have joined us.

Life is full of ups and downs. We don't always get the things that we would like and things don't always turn out the way that we want them to. But that is a part of life and we learn to embrace what we do have.

I really think it would be a good idea for you to see your doctor and talk about your depression. I think that counseling would help you a lot. So please talk to your doctor and start working on getting rid of your depression.

As was posted above, it is good to come on to an online support group. And I am glad that you have decided to join us. There are many here who can understand how you feel. But you do need to take on the responsibility of working on your depression. Things look a lot better in life when you are feeling well. And feeling good about yourself as you do deserve that. I hope that you start feeling better soon.

Best wishes to you.

Keep posting,

Hugs, Karen

That is all that we can do Blue, is try our best. We tend to expect so much out of ourselves, when we should just go along with the flow sometimes. Life is hard enough as it is. We should give ourselves a break now and then. Let up on ourselves. I think we would be more relaxed and get farther ahead in the long run.

Keep trying, never give up on yourself. But at the same time, give yourself a break to just be human.

Hugs, Karen

Most upset one, would you please take a moment and read what you shared?  You admitted that you're mad at the world, and if that's how you feel, it's your right to let anyone have it.  May I ask, is it the world that's mean to you, or could it possibly be you're just getting a little back of what you're handing out?

You commented about how you can't get any sexual satisfaction.  Is that all you want out of a relationship - a quick ride on some bouncy springs?  Trust me, you'll be just as empty afterwards as you are now.  Making love with someone you love is beyond great, but only because it's a way of sharing your love, not about a climax.  There are plenty of methods that don't require anyone else being around to facilitate that end result.

The best place to find people who are as dear and kind as yourself are in places where they too go.  Organized religion is no better starting ground.  In our little town of just 50,000, we have over 40 churches, so I'm sure you too have many options where you can meet wonderful people.

As far as being upset over still living at home, the only thing that's going to change that is you.  If you're not making enough money to support yourself alone, then maybe it's time you get a little more training in some area of work so you can generate a bit more income so you can have a place of your own, but being upset about it all the time only hurts you and that hurts me.

Life is what we make out of it plain and simple.  Instead of staying focused on the bad things in life, why not look only towards things that are uplifting and joyful.  I never allow one single moment of TV that includes anything bad to ever be on our TV's, ever!  If you put junk and crud in your head by the shows you watch, then of course that's what will be on your mind.  Instead, why not watch shows that not only entertain, but only lift the heart up with the joys and beauty of this earth?  If you're looking for someone to love, I dare say you'll rarely find it at a bar, but I promise you that when you're walking through your local park, you might just meet someone who's there to enjoy the flora and birds just like you are and then together you can enjoy it even more.

It's easy to find the darkness of life, but if you're willing to open the blinds and let the sun shine in, there's also plenty of light that will fill the black holes of your life with so much joy.  Good luck, Bob.

Misfortune,


I know what it's like to be on the receiving end of bullying and scapegoating. You've had the kind of breaks in life that only those who have experienced them can understand.



Here, you will find those like myself who have. I understand you. Though we have led somewhat different lives after highschool. I went to a university and eventually married. It's not been rosey for me, but that's the breaks.



...

Misfortune, you're a sensitive soul. To me, that is that we think and feel a bit deeply. I don't always find it displeasing, but when I'm down it gets to be way down. Here you are. I am also, it's just the way it is. I haven't been able to get going, and you're considering that you've gotten to a wall. It's that way. Knowing others are there too, hasn't exactly helped me, but it is something. I don't exactly hold onto that, as to me it's cliche. But, so what, I let it be as what it is, we know what's going on with us, and that makes us smart. We're here thinking about it in the open as it were. We're lucky in that we've gotten a break having the internet. For me I don't know for how long, I could go to the library if I had to.



But, anyway, good luck.

Post Edited By Moderator (serafena) : 3/6/2010 9:34:47 AM (GMT-7)

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Misfortune,

We all have to live life as it is. And it is true, it is what we make it. I understand though how you feel. Sometimes it is like we can't get a break. But that is a part of learning. After the bad, comes the good from the feeling of dealing with the bad and resolving things. Like little projects throughout. Keep trying, things will be better for you.

Hugs, Karen

Dear misfortune , It sounds like you've suffered a great deal in your life , I'm very sorry to hear that .Humans are social beings and isolating yourself will hurt you even more .Please reach out , there are helplines and hotlines that can give you info about where you can get help in your area , please call them and realize you can't do ths alone , you need help like we all do there is no shame in that at all.You'll find it will be a positive expierence just to interact with people .Best of luck and please try to persevere , mikel

 I like to thank every1 especially Sleepy for giving support. Even though my life is a living hll I will try the best I can to pull through and heal from my sufferings. Thanks again.