What is wrong with me????????????

Hi I need some advice before i completely fall apart. I have come to a point in my life where i cant go out of my front door and have gotten to the point that i only go out twice a week and that's to get my groceries and go to my chemist to get my medication!! I have this huge fear of going out anywhere and even when i go to my local supermarket im having terrible panic attacks and i break down in tears and shake ect!!

Even when i think about having to go down the street i start to panick even before i leave the house. I want to go out and do thing's but the other part of my brain is telling me im not safe if i go out so therfore i stay at home and i know that im safe then. I also have trouble even answering my telephone??? Why am i so scared about all of this and how do i overcome my feeling's of fear??? Even going to my letterbox is a big thing for me now. Im so alone and so afraid and it's just becoming so debilitating feeling this way and i just dont know where to turn or what to do. I try and go for a coffee when im out but i cant anymore so i just get what i have to get and get back home as soon as i can and i hate it so much and have nobody i can talk to at all as i have nobody in my life that even gives a crap about me. When is all of this going to end as im tired of it all and am tired of fighting my fear but i wish i knew why im so scared of leaving my home???? Any dvice would be much apprecaiated. Very confused.

sincerley,

Beverley....

Hi Bev,

This is something that you really need to talk to your doctor about. It could just be anxiety, but it could be agorapphobia. Which can be dealt with. I probably spelled that wrong but that it just besides the point. But it is something that is so important for the doctor to know about so that he can treat it. You might need more anxiety medications because of this. Or it might be something that counseling could help. Or even both.

I got that way for a long time, but it was more like I didn't care to go to the door. I didnt' want to see anybody, I didn't go anywhere, or answer the phone. I just slept. And I did it for two years. That is a lot of wasted time. But I found the right medications and now I am better. I don't go out as much as many, but I don't have the fear of going and I do go on occasion.

Bev, I do hope that you feel better soon. I hope that this fear goes away. You can over come it with help. If you can't get to the doctor, get a book. See what you have and learn how to treat it. The doctor is always the best route, but books can help you get there.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen

hi and thankyou for your support. Well things are getting worse with me being to scared to leave the house. I havent been out since last Sunday and have to go to work tommorrow but am getting more fearful just nowing i have to go out and it constantly runs through my mind and just makes my anxiety so much worse. I still havent contacted my doctor because i dont want to go and sit in a room full of people and just the thought of it is very overwhelming. I hate this as i feel like a prisoner in my home. I dont know where to turn at the moment and as usual have nobody to talk to about it all and what i can do to stop this going on.

And Bar77 the answer to ur question about anything triggering all of this off, no nothing has triggered it off it has been gradually creeping up on me for the last couple of years when i look back at everything!!!!! I also havent told my family about any of this as im truly embarrassed and i know that they will all just give me a hard time and wont let me live it down,they will basically ridicule me over it. So as usual im on my own.

sincerley,

beverley...... :(

Hello dear

bless you

the moderator is right: see your doctor.

But, in the meantime... I have discovered that the way to conquer fear is to have more of it - ie: push your boundaries.

If going outside scares you, shut your eyes and run out of the house in a clown suit - and everyone will stare at you. But you know what? You won't be so scared to go out wearing normal clothes after that.

It helps to put things in perspective I think.

Then make sure you leave the house at least once a day if only to walk around the block - it will help normalise it.

you are not scared of things you do all the time, so make it part of your daily routine.

beverly, am here for you. jamie.

Beverly,

Just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you. I hope that everything is okay.

Hugs, Karen

beverly, how are you? you have my e-mail. if not it is in my profile. happy for you to contact me. with healing compassion, jamie.

beverly, can your doc do a call out? something to think about. at least it will be very personal and private. am real worried about you. with compassion, jamie.

Beverley stop fighting your demons right now and pull yourself together.

You may have a medical problem, a chemical imbalance in your brain. So it is a practical problem with a practical solution. If your tap breaks, you put a new tap on, right? If you break your arm you go to the doctor and get a plaster cast.

So if you have a chemical imbalance in your brain you go to the doctor and you get treatment.

What you are describing is not normal, seek help now from your doctor. Pick up the phone and ring them. Explain you are feeling like you cannot leave the house to visit them.

If you have to call an ambulance to take you to hospital. They will come and collect you!

After you get treatment, go outside, and help somebody - volunteer for a charity.

get out there and get talking to people, get involved in your community. What you need is a social network.

You need people.

Don't throw your life away. Your life is important and there are many people you can help. Those people need you though you haven't met them yet.

Hi Beverly,

I am sorry that you are struggling so. I hope that things get better soon. Have you tried calling your doc and seeing if he will call anything in for you so that you don't have to go to the office?

You are going to have to leave the house sooner or later. How is this effecting your job? We are all really concerned about you. I imagine that it is hard staying in with the family.

Take care,

Hugs, Karen

Goodness when is all this panic and fear going to stop as i really cant cope with it for much longer. And again i was supposed to see my doc tomorrow but all morning ive been in panic mode just thinking about having to go there so again i rang and spoke to his receptionist Trish who know's me well but didn't know i have this problem until i told her about half an hour ago and i told her that i am having trouble leaving my home ect then she started to argue with me and said you have to come in whether you like it or not and she was very nasty toward's me and had me in tears until i told her off,then she apoligized. Anyway i have made an appointment for next week to see him so hopefully i will be able to attend???? I just want this horrible feeling to stop and i want to be able to go out without any fear or anxiety. It's also affecting me physically to the point that im feeling very nauseaus,vomiting and rapid weight loss and just feel weak all of the time. I dont know what else to say anymore.

 

sincerly,

 

Beverley......

Beverly,

It looks like you have a friend now from your neck of the woods. I think that is wonderful. I am glad that you made that other appointment and are not giving up. Once you make it there, you are on your way to better days. You just have to get the right medicaions I think.

I hope this finds you feeling better.

Hugs, Karen

I'm new, but I just wanted to say that the longer you put it off the harder it is going to get. You really should go see your doctor, and if you can't go by yourself maybe have somebody escort you there. That way you aren't alone. I hope that this gets better for you. With Prayers~