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Posted 3/24/2010 4:35 PM (GMT 0)
I am desperately in need of someone to talk to. Feelings are eating away at me. I have some issues but they are pretty personal and I dont feel comfortable sharing them on the forums
Would someone be willing to chat (like on Aol instant messanger) or something to me to help me out? I am pretty lost and just need a friend.
Posted 3/24/2010 5:07 PM (GMT 0)
I would post it on here but I think its something that might cause a lot of commotion and I dont want to cause any trouble. It involves gender and sexual issues for those wondering why I am scared to post it on here...

I would feel like a nuisance
Posted 3/24/2010 6:24 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Liddlesaddle,

It is not a bother to have you post your issues, just make sure you stay within forum rules. Feel free to share your troubles here, nobody will judge you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 3/24/2010 7:38 PM (GMT 0)
Okay Im just going to spill it all out... I need someone to talk to.
My husband is a cross dresser. I have always had trust issues... and recently I just found out my husband kissed my best friend about a year ago. He was dressed like a girl, and my friend is into transvestites.. she thinks its hot. He wanted to see if he really wanted to marry me or not... okay well the thing that makes me angry me off is they didnt tell me. Ive accepted it his crossdressing and I didnt really see it as an issue. He says he likes the way it makes his boobs feel. And I know for sure hes not gay. But hes had wanted me to have a *** experience.. and although Im bi.. I would never ever be with another person because its not "hot" I believe that sex should only be shared with someone you love. A kiss is not as bad, but I am still really hurt and I am just really confused in general about what it is he wants.
I used to have an eating disorder and today I feel as though I cannot eat.. if I eat I throw up.. I do not know if that is related to how I feel or if I am sick. I was feeling bad before but today it has gotten worse.
Posted 3/24/2010 11:10 PM (GMT 0)
I really think that you should talk to somebody professional about the eating disorder. You need support with that. As for the other, it was just a kiss, so I wouldn't let it get to me that much. By the way, how did you find out? Does it still seem to be an issue with them? Or just with you? The cross dressing is between you and him. And you said that you were fine with that. So all that leaves is the kiss. And if I were you, I would try to put it out of your mind. But I really would like you to see somebody about the eating disorder. You want to make sure that you have that under control.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 3/25/2010 10:02 AM (GMT 0)
good for you-in having boundaries, i too beleive that sexual interactions should only be with the one you love. something i hold true in my life. i think you have been very understanding towards your partner, and agree with karen to let the kiss go. hoping you feel better soon, and if not plsease seek medical assistance. you have been brave in posting. with healing compassion, jamie.
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