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Posted 6/3/2010 8:17 PM (GMT 0)
okay so im in an amazing relationship with my girlfriend in high school. Her parents take our relationship seriously and are open to talking to me and making me feel welcome. They always invite me over for dinner and i just feel loved over there. My parents dont even care one bit. They always yell at me and never let me hang out. They have way to high expectations for me and when i worked hard for my 4.0 and they get mad it just kills me inside. It makes me very depressed and i feel like the only person keeping me happy is my girlfriend. But the most important reason i am on is that yesterday my girlfriends mom invited me to go on vacation with their whole family. I was so excited. So i got home and right as i asked my parents i received a no. With no explanation. I am now sooooo mad at my parents and my hopes were so high for this vacation. Now they are at very very low levels. Another reason to add is that i dont feel i can talk to my parents about anything. I want to tell them about my relationship and all i get is yelling and me getting told that our relationship will never last more than a few months. But... my girlfriend can talk to her parents about everything. Her parents tell me how they can tell that i really like their daughter and that the know that they can trust me with her. I really feel like her parents think of me way more than my parents do. i know this may not seem like much but it is really hurting me. Please help

Post Edited (afreels) : 6/3/2010 8:24:11 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 6/3/2010 9:32 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Afreels,

There really isn't much that you can do without it when your parents say no. How old are you? How long before you are old enough to make your own decisions? You might just have to wait your time out until you are old enough to support yourself and be on your own. Which means that getting an education is very important to you right now. You need a good education to get a good enough job to support yourself and perhaps even your girlfriend. So look at it realistically. Realize that as long as you are under their roof, no means no. But in time you will be old enough to make your own decisions.

Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 6/3/2010 10:05 PM (GMT 0)
i have the same problem...my parents dont let me go out with my friends...if my friends ask them for their permission directly to them..they make up stories of me being sick and cant go out and stuff...things will not stay the same forever...it is bound to change...you will have better days when you are on your own and will still have them around..having faith in god and future is important i think...take care..

with prayers..
hubbysmichelle
Posted 6/4/2010 6:25 AM (GMT 0)
Hey Afeels

Some parents are tough aren't they? But you know what, it's tough being parent, especially a parent of a teenager. I am speaking from experience here and I found it much tougher than when my two were small. Okay, they said no to the vacation and that is really disappointing, especially if they didn't give you a reason. Do you think perhaps you could get your girlfriend's mother to go out on a limb for you and give your mum a call and talk about it? It might be worth a try.

You sound like a really nice young man, so you have been bought up properly especially if your girlfriend's parents trust you implicitly. If your mum still won't let you go, then I guess you have to accept it. Maybe try and get a job for the summer? Just try not to get too depressed about it all, you know you will look back on these years later in life and wonder what all the fuss was about, believe me you will. Lots of kids think they can't talk to their parents, and probably that is so in some cases, what about talking to your dad by himself?

I hope it all works out for you, keep posting and let us know how it turns out. I'll be thinking about you.
Posted 6/7/2010 6:01 AM (GMT 0)
Is there a cultural issue here? You will need to help your parents understand but you will have to understand things from their perspective. They do want the best for you, at least what they think is the best for you, and they honestly believe they are making the right choice.
Posted 6/8/2010 2:49 AM (GMT 0)
Hey ...

I know exactly what you mean by having your relationship partner be the only one that can keep you happy yet your family makes you feel lonely. My boyfriend always makes me smile...yet my parents make me feel worse. Its okay, you're not alone at all. I think the best thing to do is talk to your girlfriend about it. Or even her parents if you feel comfortable. Have both your parents met before yet? I think if they do they might have a better understanding of why you two are perfect for each other. :) Hope that helped. Hang in there!!!

-SuzyNell :)
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