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Posted 9/28/2010 8:34 PM (GMT 0)

I AM ONLY 20 AND IAM SUFFERING FROM MAJOR DEPRESSION. I HAVE A LOST OF INTEREST IN ALL THE THINGS THAT USE TO MAKE ME HAPPY LIKE(SHOPPING,BEING PRETTY,EATING ALOT, GROOMING AND ETC.) THIS HAS TAKEN A TOLL ON MY LIFE I FEEL HORRIBLE EVERYDAY. THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR 2 MNTHS NOW. MY DOCTOR HAS PUT ME ON A ANTI-DEPPRESSANT CALLED PAROXETINE BUT I DONT THINK ITS WORKING. PLEASE HELP MY 3 YR OLD DAUGHTER NEEDS ME. cry

Posted 9/28/2010 8:57 PM (GMT 0)
TC-
I don't think I've welcomed you yet, so welcome to HW. We are all just fellow sufferers of depression so we're a bit limited on how we can help. But I definitely can relate to the feelings.

Have you seen your psychiatrist lately? Two months is a pretty good trial run. Maybe it's time to either up the dose or try a new med. Often it takes a few tries to find the right med or combo of meds that will help a particular person. It took me quite a while to find the right help. Hang in there & keep trying. Things do get better.

As for your daughter, just keep doing all the things you would normally do even if they're not making you happy. There is some research that shows there is a connection between physical tasks & our emotions. So sometimes if you do something that normally would make you feel better, even if it doesn't seem to have a real impact, it can still be beneficial. I know that seems nearly impossible though when you are really depressed.

If you are worried about harming yourself or your daughter, please go to the ER right away. They will make sure everyone stays safe.

Wish I could offer better advice. Hang in there!
-frances
Posted 9/28/2010 9:31 PM (GMT 0)
Hello TC and welcome to HealingWell,

I am sorry to read you are going through a rough time but coming here and talking with us is a brave thing to do.

Your medication, Paroxetine (Paxil)   controls your condition but does not cure it. Usually it takes a combination of therapy and medicaitons to help you learn how to live with your depression. 

Never lose hope in dealing with your fears and depression. Notice your feelings, figure out what's real, ask 'so what?', make it bigger than life, walk through it, and celebrate who you are. Do these things, make them habits, expose the irrationality  of your fears and know that you will get better.  Take it one step at a time and focus on your daughter.  Try to keep busy so the depression does not overwhelm you.

Please talk with your Dr. if this med does not work for you as perhaps you need a dose increase or a different medication.

I wish you peace,

Kitt
Posted 9/29/2010 7:48 PM (GMT 0)
thanks for all the encouraging words, but its like life has gotten so hard and look like im geting no better like i jus want to give up
Posted 9/29/2010 8:04 PM (GMT 0)
its like my life is at a stand still i feel lifeless like a bad nightmare im waiting to wake up from i go to counseling n everythng and nothing seems to help
Posted 9/29/2010 9:30 PM (GMT 0)
Just stopping is not the answer.  Keep moving forward even if it is only babysteps.  Remember you do control your destination.

Good luck and stick with us.

Posted 9/29/2010 9:56 PM (GMT 0)
Hang in there. Most people need to try 3 different meds/combinations of meds before they find something that helps. Keep at it. I know it is so incredibly hard. I want to give up a lot of days too, but I have had good times too thanks to getting help so know that there is still reason to hope. You are getting help while you are still young and that makes the biggest difference in long term prognosis. If you keep at it now for maybe 4-5 months longer it will very likely have a big impact on the rest of your life.

hang on & keep posting,
frances
Posted 9/30/2010 7:13 AM (GMT 0)
Yes, do keep moving forward. At least call the doctor and tell him of your difficulties. It is worth it to tackle this thing whole you are young, and resilient, even if you don't feel too resilient now. How about some counselling, therapy?
It might make you feel better to throw some clothes on, brush your hair, put the baby in the stroller, and go for a walk. Is there a park with swings etc? or a duck pond. Anywhere is OK. Mention the parks because maybe you could drive there, and push her around. Take some deep breaths and just hang out.
Make a priority list, starting out with the bare minimum. Such as, shower, clean clothes, bathe, dress and feed the baby. If the self care is too much, just shoot for it. Throw something on and get outside. Make sure you eat something nourishing, staying away from junk. Not so hard: care for baby, eat, go outside. Baby steps for you.
Some people just LOVE taking a nice hot bath when the kids are asleep. Do you music on? Anybody you could go visit for a short time?
You can beat this and survive.
Oh, if applicable, no rec. drugs or alcohol. Might seem to help, actually brings you down.
Good luck, Sweetie. Post again.
Posted 9/30/2010 7:38 AM (GMT 0)
I'm probably one of the saddest stories here. Trust me, you got to hang on those positives. Try thinking like this: How would my 3 year old feel if I left? What would they think? Does Mommy still love me anymore? What did I do so bad?

Hon, if you think you got it bad, I burried 9 soldiers (2 were my brothers). Had a nervous breakdown in front of my doctor. Tried to commit (but failed as I'm typing), Got told I needed chemotherapy. Was litterly "hit by a car" as a pedestrain in a crosswalk with my light. Found out dad needed dialysis and only has 8% chance to live without a transplant. My mom getting in 2 accidents, and now is trying to regain her control. And if that isnt enough? I burried my uncle. Moved in with my grandmother because she has alheimers and take care of her, while in chemotherapy. What got me thru it? Medication, pet therapy and counceling. (After the nervous breakdown cuz the darn doc had to ask my opinion of the war two weeks after my brothers passing from an ied the doctor tossed me on medication, wrote me a note to keep my son and my cat everywhere I go cuz I tended to think more sane around them and tossed me into counceling) Honey, if I can get through it, trust me you can. And you also got us to talk to! And me!

Kitt is real good, shes smacked I mean got my spirits up a few times around my brothers bday (wow doesnt that sound familar within the past few weeks kitt lol). I do fine, once I calm down, but I can be an uttermost wreck. Love ya Kitt :p
Posted 10/2/2010 9:35 PM (GMT 0)
trying to understand-it seems as if i hve tried all those things but nothing can bring me joy
smurfyshadow- yea i see some1 else has it more bad than me i thought i had it bad but all that uve been through u make me want to try harder i feel like ive been trying but maybe not hard enough thanks for all the encouragement im glad i join this website and decided to post
Posted 10/2/2010 9:39 PM (GMT 0)
kitt i think right now the only way to try to move forward are baby steps
Posted 10/2/2010 9:43 PM (GMT 0)
frances- now im on my 2nd med im trying to hang n there in stay strong
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