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Posted 12/26/2010 9:04 PM (GMT 0)
This is my first time on a message board. I came here to reach out for some support. My family does not understand that I am depressed and it causes them to hate me. It makes it more painful than the depression alone. My siblings also say horrible things about me because I am so depressed. They think it is my way of getting attention. But I do not live with my family anymore. And they rarely ever call me. How can I be using my depression to get attention when they never see me? I went to my parents house to exchange gifts last night and my mother told me that it is all my fault that my brothers and sister in law hate me. And that I was solely responsible for keeping the family separated because I can not just snap out of it. My family does not believe in depression or mental illness and it is very painful. They expect me to just get over the abuse from my childhood but their denial makes me dwell on it even more. In any case other than taking a cocktail of anti-depressants I do not know what to do about myself. I don't mean to dump my problems on those of you reading this. But I do not know where else to turn.
Posted 12/26/2010 11:40 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for your reply. I have been on medications for years. I have also been seeing a psychologist and psychiatrist for the same amount of time and continue to, but I still feel bad all the time. Part of the reason that my depression is so controversial in my family is because of the medications I have been taking and seeking professional help. My parents think Psychology is a pseudo science and think I am an idiot for going as often as I do. My therapist has implored me to do group sessions with my family members because she thinks that would help. However, when I try to mention it to my family they chastise and make fun of me. They laugh and gossip about me behind my back amongst themselves and to their neighbors. I was hospitalized once for a suicide attempt and they use that to hurt me and complain about how expensive the bill was even though I was the one who paid for it. Right now it is so beyond changing my meds. I don't know what else to do.
Posted 12/26/2010 11:49 PM (GMT 0)
HI Pink,

Welcome to HealingWell.  Of course you know you're not at blame for  other people's feeling  which is just as bad as people who accuse depressed people as "feeling sorry for themselves" or demanding that they "snap out" of  their mood or behavior. Your family is not a good support system for you and in fact they are toxic for you.
 

Please know your can't change your  parents or siblings or make them understand depression or what you are  going through. It's an issue that you should  discuss in therapy and learn how to move on without your family dragging you down.  I understand how bad it feels to know your own family is not there for you but we are right here to support you and help you through the good and the not so good times.

Coming here and talking with us is a huge step to learning how to deal with depression.  We know where your coming from and what your going through. 

Keep on talking with us.

Kindly,

Kitt

Posted 12/26/2010 11:58 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you Kitt! That means a lot to me.
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