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Posted 2/23/2011 8:34 AM (GMT 0)
I have been off healing well for quite sometime. Been taking counselling and medication for depression and trying to keep busy.
Anyhow today I m back as I miss my HW friends who might just help me as none else would understand how I am feeling.
My Docs detected me with Borderline personality,Bipolar depression and a hypo thyroid.
This was a few weeks back.
Three months back was my granfathers and my bfs sorry exs dads death anniversary we both were in pits but he asked me to keep away (now he confesses tht he was worried i would not be supportive enough) we were in a long distance.
after which for 3 months my boyfriend broke contact with me and I too didnt crib much as I wanted to take help and be emotionally stable enough to take care of him. I love him so much.
On my bday night 7th midnight he called me n wished me.....I was so happy to speak with him but also drowsy caz of my depression medication that I by mistake didnt realize that he said he lost his gran mom. I didnt mean to ignore it. I was just in a drowsy state I asked basic questions and didnt ask much as knowing my bf he wudntt have liked me questioning him. we had been together for one yr n 3 months. he left me that day itself ie my bday.....
Since than I have been trying to convince him. He spoke to my counsellor and she told him I had a borderline personality from which he gained that I might have cheated on him. I knw this story is weird but im trying to fill in as much as i can. He abused me and insulted me and said my womb was too dirty to carry his children caz I have a past of cheating and I "must have" cheated on him.
I havent. I love him and that makes me feel so low and in the pit again. it sucks.
help me please.
Posted 2/23/2011 9:02 AM (GMT 0)

geez annie, am sorry. what he said is dispicable.

sending healings your way. keep strong annie, jamie.

Posted 2/23/2011 1:02 PM (GMT 0)
Annie said, "He abused me and insulted me and said my womb was too dirty to carry his children...."

Jamie replied, "what he said is dispicable."

Despicable is one word for it. Another is "bizarre." Has he been diagnosed with any ... mental disorder(s)? I suspect that he was hurling other verbal gems at you when this one came out. A man who thinks such a perverse thought, much less expresses it, must have some degree of maladjustment. That, or he was trying awfully hard to hurt you as much as possible.
Posted 2/27/2011 4:54 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for responding.
Yes he did abuse me a lot more but this one stuck on me. It was hurtful.
We had a word a day or so back and he apologised for what he had said about my family but wasn't sorry about what he said to me.
He's asked me to leave him alone. Take my medication get better and than speak with him. And I thought to myself how could a person who loves someone leave them when their presence itself adds up to their loved ones recovery. I had no answer for my own question.
I love him so much wish he would wait for me and not get over me by the time I'm better.

:(
Posted 2/27/2011 10:21 AM (GMT 0)
Do as he said, work on you. He may be there when you get better, he may not, but you will be better and stronger and it wont matter so much. Trust me, take care of you...

Hugs, Karen
Posted 2/27/2011 10:29 PM (GMT 0)
Annie,

I am sorry to read of your sorrow at the break up with your Boyfriend.  No one here can tell you why he has behaved this way.  He might not know himself.

Whatever the reason, enjoy the lack of abuse, and get to work healing from the harm the verbal abuse did to you so you can avoid verbally abusive boyfriends in the future.

If you are ever in an abusive relationship again, end it. You can get very hurt by someone treating you this way and you don't deserve that. JMHO sweetie.

Keep working with your therapist and take care of you.

Kindly,

Kitt

Posted 2/28/2011 1:35 AM (GMT 0)
He shouldn't treat you that way!!! No man ever should :( It sounds like he has alot of issues himself...it might be better to stay away from each other until you are both healthier, just a thought :/ I know break ups are awful and I hope you feel better. Please take care!! <3
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