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Posted 4/15/2011 6:27 PM (GMT 0)
Hello.  I am new on this site, but thought I'd post to see if anyone has had a similar experience.  I can't stop thinking about my career and what a failure I am.  I have a job, which I know I should be thankful for, but it's a dead end job.  Everyone I know in my field is more successful than I am, and I've searched and searched to get out of this job but haven't had any luck.  I feel like I'm stuck and my career is over in my mid-40s.  And all I think about is beating myself up for the career choices I've made, because they turned out to be wrong. 

Has anyone felt the same way about any issue in their lives?  thanks very much. 

Posted 4/15/2011 6:57 PM (GMT 0)
Hi LiamLuca,

Try not to think of yourself as a failure. There will still be a path for you to follow in this life. We keep learning. With age comes wisdom. For most of us anyway, I don't know about myself. Honestly though, I feel a lot wiser than I use to. I use to have so many questions about life. But, I have learned to go with the flow now. Be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished and know that there could be more oppertunity right around the corner. Keep trying, never give up on yourself. Know that we are all here for you too. What kind of work do you do? And what would you like to be doing?

Take care, and welcome to the forum.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 4/15/2011 7:22 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks.  I am actually an attorney.  I'm just scared that I'm stuck for the next twenty years in a dead end job.  The job is interesting every once in awhile, but there's nowhere to go.  I've come very close to getting another job a couple of times, but they fell through, once due to an external circumstance that I could not control.  Thank you for replying - I appreciate it. 
Posted 4/15/2011 8:03 PM (GMT 0)
hi welcome to the site... a job isn't or even a career isn't what makes the man or person. I was a dental hygienist and loved it, i got sick and now i struggle with the guilt i put on myself for not working.

it is a double edge sword. Your work at times may seem meaningless to you but it isn't to the people you deal with. Try to look at things from a different angle. Are you getting enough sleep or good sleep? I BELIEVE opps caps locked... that we are put where we are suppose to be for what ever reason to challenge us, and when we are content and in any circumstance is when we are more free to move in different venues. Don't force it . God's timing and ours is so different and i wish he had a faster watch.

take care,
fern
Posted 4/15/2011 8:07 PM (GMT 0)
Do not compare yourself to anyone else.  Total waste of time.  If being an attorney is not your career path, do you have any idea what is?  Do you make enough money to keep you floating while you pursue your dream?  Most people are working to live, not living to work, so I guess we all view our jobs as less than satisfying.  I do not care what I do for a job as long as I make enough to do the things that really matter to me.  I don't work for the company, I work for my family.

Gem

Posted 4/15/2011 8:12 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the responses.  I actually enjoy being an attorney - I'm just trying to find somewhere else to do it.  I have always used my career as what makes me worthwhile, and I'm trying to change that.  But in the meantime, I feel sort of worthless because my job isn't getting me anywhere. 
Posted 4/15/2011 8:17 PM (GMT 0)
I do no think any one aspect of our lives can totally fulfil us.  It is the sum of all the parts that makes us whole.  Try spending time on other areas of your life.  It is not all about work.  I have had jobs that I felt they were destroying my life, when in actuality it was the way I was reacting to that particular jobs stresses that made it so bad.  When I should have just updated my resume ad went job hunting.

Good luck to you.  Find something outside your job that makes you happy.

Gem

Posted 4/16/2011 9:51 AM (GMT 0)
look outside the circle. maybe some brain-storming will help. with compassion, jamie
Posted 4/16/2011 9:57 AM (GMT 0)
I feel like you, too, LiamLuca. I'm nearly 26 and now that we're all finished university BAs or MAs, and the dust has settled, I can see which ones of my friends are making it and which ones aren't (me). I compare myself to people too, and that's something that everyone always says never to do. Sometimes I like to pretend I'm living in a bubble where there's just me and that's it. That helps sometimes. So the only competition is yourself. It frees me up. I hope that you know that you're really not alone *hugs*
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