I'm a door mat

Think of it as what you are doing is enabling him. That will help you get on the right track. Then send him to a mission or something. Or a homeless shelter. He does need to get a job, but he needs help from his drinking and may have to take some kind of public transport. It can be done. I don't blame you for not wanting him to take your car if he is going to drink and drive.

I am glad I am not in your shoes. That must be difficult. But the sound of it people are on to his game. And it sounds like it is going to come to an end. He is running out of options. You aren't his keeper, so don't feel guilty if you can no longer help him.


Best wishes to you.

Hugs, Karen

I want to tell you a AHA.. moment for me.  I was sitting on my front porch,my live-in boyfriend that had finally moved out again had just visited me sitting on my front porch,  He wanted to come back.  My tenant upstairs and to this day friend drove up and ask me whats wrong, I said Larry just came by and wanted to get back,  maybe...........I should try again.   Kim immediatly said don't you remember when he did this and that and etc.  She made me remember the crap that I had forgotten and just was remembering good moments.  She brought me back to reality.  Kim said Remember when he did this..remember that...I had forgotten all the bad,,and she reminded me of it.  I thank her to this day for that moment she stopped by my house and remimded me of the reality of being with Larry.  When time passes we forget the bad times.   We need to remember these times so we don't go back,and Kim that day told me why I was not going back, cause I forgot the bad stuff.  She,,,,,,,,,was a very good friend

rehab is the only answer. with compassion, jamie.