Sad and Regretful

Hi Glen098,

It sounds pretty simple to me, start studying and stop lieing about it. That is what she seems to expect. When somebody lies all the time, then people start to never believe them. That is it plain and simple. When people lie to me, I can't trust them and it puts me on edge. I suspect that your mom is going through the same thing. She is on edge because she cant' believe you. And when you are on edge, you get nervous and irritable. So try not to lie. Do your studies.

Why are you taking online courses instead of going to school? You are missing all the interaction of school. Is there a reason why you are doing it this way? Let us know.

I hope that you and your mom can work things out. I hate to see relationships that are so special go sour. Keep trying and take it one day at a time. Keep posting too.

Hugs to you, Karen

Thanks for the replies. Actually, i never got bad grades in anything until i joined this school (i really don't like this school). So, i may be going back to public school (which opened another can of worms with my mother.) She projects her teen-aged self onto me, thinking that i'm going to sleep around and do drugs. Her worries are understandable, but mislead. Anyway, i hope this option will clear the air. I think i'll still get a tutor.BUT my math finals are today and i already passed an AFD quiz, which automatically puts me in geometry! Things are looking a little better!

Post Edited (glen098) : 5/23/2011 11:37:58 AM (GMT-6)

Geez, i came home from final, and mom picks a fight with me! I didn't even talk to her! She got all worked up, even though i barely said anything, and when she did ask for my opinion, she wouldn't be quiet long enough for me to answer, and she got mad at me for not answering! She tried to strangle my (half-halfheartedly, she probably doesn't want to kill me) demanding answers to my actions. How am i supposed to answer like that?" Then she acted like it was totally stupid that i was crying after that! Just to clear something up, she has only hit me 3 time in my life and the first time she has done something like that. I don't say sorry because when i do, she yells about how I'll never change (although I've only been "bad" for half a year) and tell me how she will move out this month and it's all my fault. I really want to move out, but i don't know what to do. I'm about to go on a trip without her, so i hope that will make things better.

Yes, sorry i was a little unclear. My mom, for the last year and a half, has been out of work due to an injury that is difficult to recover from. this has taxed her mentally and physically (as well as spiritually) because of this, she admits that she hasn't been the best mother, and this last half year, i started to lie. It is pretty disturbing, even to me because i NEVER lied before and now it's like second nature. You have to understand that i have a very calm and passive personality, and actually, this is the first time i'm talking to anyone about anything personal. So when she gets upset, i try to be quiet and not get mad (which i later find, gets her even more mad). I have found out that doing this actually builds up stress in me and because i don't really talk to others much, it just keeps building. So we have the emotional and frustrated mom, and the about-to-burst daughter. Then, i do something like lie, and everything hits the roof. (as to why, see my first post) Then she says that i can talk to her about anything, but when i do tell her about mistakes (school-related or otherwise) she tells me that i made a stupid decision and sometimes yells at me. I am trying to change, but it's hard and she doesn't give me the chance and remembers for forever. I'll probably be hearing about it until i'm 20. Anyway, thanks for conversing with me, it's just so hard to talk sometimes and this site makes it easier, even if it is partly my fault. It feels like i can be open and honest without any repercussions. Thanks!

Thanks! I will think about a job!