hello..Just joined. I am lonely.

Hello totoro,

What kind of music do you write? I'm sorry you feel lonely. I am here to talk. It really helps.

Hi Totoro,

Welcome to the HealingWell Depression forum! I am so glad that you have joined us. I think music is the best. I love it. Have you ever thought that maybe you are just a night owl? Or maybe you need the peace and quiet of the night to be creative? That is probably just the way that you are. I paint and I have to be in the right mood or I can't do it. I seem to do most when I am depressed. I think it is my release.

Have you ever thought about going to counseling or maybe seeing a psychiatrist? It sounds like the pressure of time may be causing you some anxiety. Maybe you need to learn to live in the now (or in the moment).

Whichever, I hope that you feel better and I wish you much success with your musical talent.

I hope that you make some friends who like the same things that you do. Is there any way that you can be around people who like music?

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen

Totoro,

First of all, there is nothing wrong with being a night owl. But if you aren't getting sun, I would take some vitaminD3. It helps with energy and gives me an overall feeling of well being. I don't get too much sun so I am low in it. I just got a blood test and was really low, had to take 50,000iu a week for a month. Now I take 2,800 iu a day. I get extra with the calcium.

Fibroomyalgia is a yucky disoorder. I have had it since 2002. It makes your muscles ache all over. Sometimes it is like a nerve pain. And feels like fire running through your veins. Itis horrible. It also makes you feel exhausted all of the time. And want to sleep. I use to sleep all dayy and be up at night. It was less stressful for me too. I didn't like the pressures of the day. I wouldn't go to the door or answer the phone. I slept for close too two years. I listened to life go by through my bedroom window. I could barely stand up. I had to hold onto furniture to walk from one room to another. But I did get better with medications. I now can go out and walk. I can do errands. I worked a job for awhile. So I did get better. I have been better with the depression too. My doctor told me it went into a type of remission with the help of medications though. So I will have to always take them.

Is there other interests that you might have besides music that you could get involved in and meet people? Coffee shop, gym, walking? I know that you are up at night which kind of limits things. But have faith, you will make friends.

Take care,

Karen

I donate to a deaf charity .. I picked that one because my hearing is everything to me. so I understand how that must be disheartening.

I think sometimes one suffers most when a combination of bad things happen. My suffering seems a bit random.

I have tinnitus sometimes .. I try to imaging the sound louder and it seems to cancel its self out.

Have you got ways of coping ? I know how it feels like nothing helps.

Did you see my reply on your feeling nothing post? it was about photography, helps me with the depersonalisation. It might help you too and its a fun hobby.

I feel nothing a lot and it makes it hard for me to be around people as I cant feel like things are real a lot of the time.

I have insomnia too but fortunately I don't need much sleep. Its 5:36 am here at the moment. I sleep a lot when I am really upset tho.

I am lonely a lot .. I have many great friends.. who are all busy all the time and cos ive moved so much they are not all in the same place as me.

I might co visit my mum later .. she has loads of pets and I love them. 3 dogs, 3 bunnies , 2 birds and 4 cats! I hope mum will pick me up I get so worried about leaving the house :(

aw. well I am here for hours ..just making some music .. its 1am now and i got up at 7 pm we can talk.

reading a book i find is a bit like meditation .. i am reading about science at the moment. reading is so good for the brain to take your mind away from pain.

crying is really good for you.. it releases chemicals you dont need blocked up and tears also contain chemicals that break down the walls of bacteria. i wish i could cry but i cant.. i always feel better after.

I pray sometimes when i really need help. I am not religious but it really helps me to think their is something more than the material world.

what i used to do which made me feel better was to make a list of all the things i love and all the things that make me feel safe.

like animals , tea, songs i like .. try making a list of things that make you feel safe and keep that list under your pillow to look at when you feel like crying.

feel free to message back i will be checking here often tonight

I dont think one can rely on medication alone .. it takes some thought process to work with the medication. its like the body, it needs food to work .. but also needs other things like water with it.

if you join the gym your body will make more chemicals that make you feel good .. and this will work along side the medication. so If you think you need something more .. the body and brain can make something more through exercise. you might be able to get discount if you get a letter from your doctor.

I have read that taking b vitimins helps depression. I take them as well as my meds.

Do you have hobbies you could be doing? I know that when you feel bad you dont want to do anything .. I used to play video games and I want to again but I dunno I feel like I cant concentrate.

I used to keep a diary which made me feel better.

Hi;

I am a newcomer to the forum.  I've struggled with depression for quite a few years (a million it feels like sometimes).  I am on medication and also see a counselor.  Right now I am really struggling with lonliness as a few of my friends live out of town and a few more are all getting married around now.  I just feel on my own a lot and spend a lot of time on my computer.  I am hoping that things will improve and I can join activities or groups to meet more people.

That is true. The negative thoughts creep in way too often. I also have the days of not wanting to be bothered. Luckily, I think feeling alone is the major thing I am dealing with right now. I say luckily because for the most part I am not feeling a ton of depression or hopelessness; my meds and therapy seem to be keeping that pretty well managed.

Thanks Stillme! I suppose that is a really good thing! I tend to get really down when I do things to disappoint myself or when I feel extremely alone; but it is good to remember that I have seen improvements.
How are you doing?

Totoro; thanks for responding. I also often feel lonely even with a group of people. I am introverted and do much better one-on-one. Large groups just exhaust me. Though I've noticed that more so since being diagnosed.
I hope you sleep well.

Kaleighah82: yes I am just like that. parties are a definite no. I had a best friend who I loved but I moved away for a few reasons. I think I will move back after uni. I have started making music with a new idea.. to write music that makes me feel safe. normally I write to get out fear but I feel like I have more direction and reason to write things to listen to for a feeling of safety.. and then I can promote it to others for the same reason.. for others to listen to when they feel like they need a hug.

I slept well thank you .. slept for a long time.

How are you doing today?

Serenitee: thank you for your message. yes I hope to make friends here. nice to meet you. I hope I will get married and have kids too but I feel like it might not happen with the way I am. I have always wanted kids I think to create a new life is the most amazing thing a human could do.