Single People suffering from Depression

 I've been single for at least 3 years. So your not alone out there when you think it may be helpful to have a significant other to help you thru tuff times.  But when i think back to the men in my life and where i'm at now, being sick, they would have been useless to me. I was the caretaker, the enabler, being there moma when they were sick, so maybe sometimes your better off being alone. Thank god i have a few good friends, and i have a few good relatives to talk to, but i hate being the person with the bad news all the time. I'm in a really gnarly situation haveing to live with my self absorbed mother who's only happy swipping her american express card on herself. It's been really tuff, but i have a really good team of doctors and letting go of my emotions on theis website is really awesome.

Actually for once in my life i'm so happy i'm not in love with anyone so i can focus on me for once. I always say if it's ment to be god will put a good man in my life. but right now i feel like i'm damaged goods. need time to heal. Do you have family or friends or any animals. They can be very comforting. I've been doing some dog sitting in my mom's neighborhood and it's really helped me. You could try alanon meetings they help too. Hang in there, we're all waiting for our nights in shinning armor.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

tryn2gtbtr said...
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Actually for once in my life i'm so happy i'm not in love with anyone so i can focus on me for once. I always say if it's ment to be god will put a good man in my life. but right now i feel like i'm damaged goods. need time to heal. Do you have family or friends or any animals. They can be very comforting. I've been doing some dog sitting in my mom's neighborhood and it's really helped me. You could try alanon meetings they help too. Hang in there, we're all waiting for our nights in shinning armor.













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Hi tryn2gtbtr, I am new to this forum, and just wanted to say I read your comment, and it's gives me so much hope to know I'm not the only depressed person, who thinks they are damaged goods, and have no hope in the world. I am male, been in a long time relationship with girl friend who dumped me almost 6 years ago. I've been single ever since. But have found it very hard to move on with my life, as I suffer from depression, shyness and anxiety especially getting close to people. As a result I am very independant, but as a lot of people mention here it is very hard to try and mingle in a world where it is assumed its normal to be either married or with someone. I have been very hard on myself for not trying to get back on track, get back into a relationship, and move on. Hell, my mum always gives me grief about it everytime I see her. She doesn't understand though, as I am not close enough to her, to disucss any of my issues. On a really good note, is that I have recently made an effort to look after myself better, treat myself with better respect, which has made me feel much more at ease, and have much more confidence and self-esteem about myself. I cannot explain it, but recently, it feels so right to spend time with myself, stop worrying things like getting hitched. This is not to say I haven't tried dating again, I have recently, asked a girl on a casual/friend type date, to see if I want to be in a relationship. The company has been great, but just trying out dating has satisfied my curiousity that I am still in the healing process like yourself, and I don't think I am ready for a heavy relationship again just yet, without feeling guilty about burdening another person with my issues. When the time is right, as you said... I think this is probably the first time I have ever felt comfortable being myself since being single. I have enjoyed reading a lot of the posts here, and hope what I have written offers some hope to others who suffer from depression. :)

Drinking and partying will only make you depressed. So if you don't want to be depressed and hung over, then stop. That is the best advice that I think you will get here. Drinking is a depressant, so it automatically makes you feel depressed after the alcohol is out of your system. It leaves you with nothing but an empty pocket. I guess if you don't want to feel depressed, you should try to be healthy. Water should be your drink of choice. Do exercise and walking or running. That kicks in the endorphines which make you feel good. A lot of it is chemical balance, or inbalance.

Try not to be desperate, it only makes a person seem weak. Be confident in who you are. You will meet somebody when the time is right. I would say for now focus on school and physical activities.

By the way, welcome to the forum. You did post on an old thread, so feel free to start a thread of your own to introduce yourself.

Take care, good luck...

Hugs, Karen

For all of the folks who are still your 20's, have great hope! Those of us in our 40's are really hurting.
I have been looking for a man who can bring as much to the table as I can, and I have not found even one who has the same values and ambitions.
There are more complications, standards and boundaries as we get older, and there are aslo approximately 8 million more women in the country than men. Sad, but true.

Hello all, I just wish I had one relationship, someone to love and someone who loves me. To all those who have had relationships I am so jealous and my depression is so bad when I see couples it makes me extremely sad, I am envious of old people and young and feel that bad that i feel rejected, defective, and some what dysfunctional in society. My beliefs about myself are very bad, I am working on this. Dont put down lonely people a lot of us try but simply are rejected and I think in my case i am so depressed woman see me and cringe. It is not fun being single, it is nothing, it is so sad and society makes you feel inferior. To all those with relationships treasure it and no there are many single people extremely sad out there who suffer every day. Think about it, Michael Jackson died alone and also many other stars.