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Posted 10/31/2011 12:03 PM (GMT 0)
My finance just broke off our relationship, saying that he's felt a distance between us for awhile. Well this came out of left field because he has never discussed anything like this with me. I thought things were going well.

The pain I am feeling is like someone is pulling my heart out and stomping on it. I feel so much despair and feel like I'm dying. I suffer from major depressive disorder and anxiety and am so scared right now. I think I am going to call my doctor. I almost feel a nervous breakdown coming on.

I have not felt this bad in a while. The depression coming back always scares me. I just needed someone talk to-thanks
Posted 10/31/2011 12:55 PM (GMT 0)
You said the right thing-call your doctor or counselor...it is pretty normal to feel like that when you lose someone you care about, but not forever.

You have your priorities right-take care of you right now...you deserve it.

Maggie
Posted 10/31/2011 1:08 PM (GMT 0)
HI Kitcat,

I agree with Maggie, see the doc asap. You can stop this before it starts bad. I hope that you feel better soon. I am sorry for the breakup. Life does go on and we have to keep living. We are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/31/2011 1:55 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry this happened to you and...
I agree with the others in that you are doing the right thing by putting a call into your counselor,
and then maybe write a letter to your finance, asking why he felt so distant, but don't write the
letter with anger, but that with trying to find out what happened, so it won't happen again
in your future relationships, and you will have future relationships, even if you can't see that right now.
Things will get better for you and you will find someone who is better for you....
Keep us posted as how your doing as we do care....
Posted 10/31/2011 2:28 PM (GMT 0)
I am sorry this happened to you. I was sent spiraling into depression after a break up. Definitely see your doctor and/or counselor so that you can avoid hitting the absolute bottom. It may take us some time but we will heal, even if it doesn't seem like it right now. I am trying not to let depression convince me otherwise.
Posted 11/1/2011 12:29 AM (GMT 0)
sending much healing compassion to you. know that we care. jamie.
Posted 11/1/2011 10:07 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all. This is the first time I have every joined a forum. You have been wonderful. I felt much better today. The only issue I am having is wanting to self medicate the pain away. So far I am winning and feeling the pain and Crying when needed.

I hope everyone is feeling ok tonight.
Posted 11/1/2011 11:09 PM (GMT 0)
I am glad that you are winning the battle of self medicating. It doesn't always really help. Especially if it is alcohol. It just depresses you more. Keep trying. A good cry is often good for releasing emotions.

Take care, have a good night. Keep us posted on how you are doing.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 11/1/2011 11:21 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome-you have found some great people here...try to do anything BUT selfmedicate. Do try to eat healthy (hard when you just want to drown in ice cream and potato chips), get some sleep at night (hard too) and post here if you feel like it. Exercise is really good (or so I heard-lol)

Keep posting, the more the merrier!!
Maggie
Posted 11/2/2011 5:35 AM (GMT 0)
yep, here for ya. we all are. jamie
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