Dreams

When I have alot of anxiety inmy daily life, I tend to have those kinds of dreams and wake up with a sense of dread that almost makes me vomit... I don't think it is the other way around, although I have had dream "hangovers" with some really bad nights, can't seem to shake that feeling. But that is usually when I am dealing with financial crises or teenage daughter angst-lol.

They say we try to resolve our dilemmas in our dreams, so maybe your brain is trying to move on from this non-relationship??? That is a healthy thing...i hope you can remain friends with this guy. Sorry I can't be more help. I don't have a social life anymore so can't help you there-lol.

Take care
Maggie

I've been miserable all day. Even when I went out with a few friends. That might be because I wasn't with who I wanted to be with. And yeah, my brain tends to want things that my heart doesn't, and vice versa. I don't know what'll become of our non-relationship. One friend said I should talk with him about it, but I have no idea how to do that. He's the only guy I've ever dated that still wants contact with me this soon after we stopped seeing each other. Actually...most guys I've dated tend to disappear after the break up. Maybe it's this fact that I'm holding on to him.

Hi Amy,

When I had started having more serious depression, my dreams became very intense. Additionally, when I went on anti depressants the dreams started happening again. Within the past month my most serious boyfriend and I broke up unexpectedly. I have been really struggling with the situation, but interestingly enough, my intense dreams have started up again. My therapist echoed what people have posted on here: our dreams are our brains working things out. My recent dreams have also involved my ex seeing other people or somehow turning me away, which has been devastating to think about. What has been good of all my dreams is that while I'm awake, I find myself getting to a better place. Those dreams are tough-I know that-but it's a really good thing because you and your subconscious are not in a place of denial, and are actively working through things.

Trust your gut. If you feel the need to talk to your ex, then you should do that. If you feel space may be more beneficial, then go that route. It sucks. I'm in the same boat right now. Let yourself experience your emotions. Cut yourself a break. Unfortunately time seems to be the only thing that helps. You're doing good though. One foot in front of the other.