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Sometimes i am me (HT)...
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Posted 1/17/2012 3:57 PM (GMT 0)
always here for you maggie. love jamie.
getting by
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Posted 1/17/2012 8:29 PM (GMT 0)
Me too Maggie. What are you doing up Jamie? Not sleeping? I hope that you get some rest, but glad that you posted.
Hugs to you both,
Karen
daisy76
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Posted 1/17/2012 11:20 PM (GMT 0)
Me three. Wish I had something more to suggest. Just remember we're here for you.
bayoub2
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Posted 1/18/2012 1:40 AM (GMT 0)
thanks to you all-he is on his best behavior and I am spreading work apps all over town so we are not here together so much...we both always worked and now are both at home 24/7....very tough on relationships...anyway, we're good...thanks for the love and support
maggie
Alaskah
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Posted 1/18/2012 2:52 AM (GMT 0)
I wish you luck with your applications and finding a way to work things out. Have you ever tried e-baying? Even if its selling old stuff around the house that you don't need, you'd be surprised at the extra money it can bring in.
Sometimes i am me (HT)...
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Posted 1/18/2012 3:40 AM (GMT 0)
good maggie. love, jamie
beagleman
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Posted 1/19/2012 10:33 AM (GMT 0)
Hello maggie, I havent posted much on other posts for a while but I think I should. Firstly thankyou very sincerely for your help when I was so disttressed, it meaned so much, it really helped me to start to change my negative thinking.
You end your posts with love maggie, this is your strong point you have so much love to share. You are a kind person, with such a loving heart, never forget your gift, I know I wont forget your kindness. No one can take this gift away from you, I hope this helps, I guess I love to post from my heart and just write how I feel, you eminate love.
bayoub2
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Posted 1/19/2012 2:17 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you Stephen
your kind reply came at the right moment-feeling pretty blue, so thank you for reminding me of the good in me. i know you know how our negative self-talk KEEPS us down and I woke up praying to God to keep me positive today.
It is always easier to be kind to others than to ourselves. I must remind myself that the kindness and forgiveness I extend to others, I need to extend to my self. I think both of us are learning that.
I have enjoyed my journey with you Stephen. Your tenacity and good heart have inspired me to keep trying..thank you so much for posting
Maggie
PA_grandma
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Posted 1/19/2012 2:43 PM (GMT 0)
Appreciate your up-date, Mag... I've been thinking of you, too.
Seems like the 'distance' is at least a good temporary solution.
daisy76
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Posted 1/19/2012 3:39 PM (GMT 0)
Stephen,
Your post was beautifully written and for some reason, made me tear up. Guess it's one of those overly emotional days lol, but what you wrote is true.
Maggie- you ARE a really kind and good person. And you're right- often we don't extend that same kindness to ourselves.
I read something on one of these threads once (can't remember which forum, maybe here) and it was really thought provoking. The person who wrote it said that when she feels herself slipping into depression, she treats herself like she would a person emerging from some horrific ordeal, she used the example of a concentration camp. She nurtures herself and cares for herself in the same way you would someone who had been through that.
It was an interesting way of looking at it and made alot of sense. I shared it with a friend who is going through a very tough time right now.
Anyway, thinking of you and hoping today is brighter for you. Hope you can do something nice for yourself today. Sending you hugs.
bayoub2
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Posted 1/19/2012 3:59 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Amber...it seems there is never time or energy to do something nice for ourselves, so I will settle for a nice hot shower before I take dtr to doc this aft.
I had stopped cymbalta because I couln't get it, thought I was doing great(how many times do we stop meds and think we're all better-lol)...well it finally wore off and i have been blubbering like a baby, so started on prozac my hubby had (yeah, I know Iknow) since I can't get in anywhere for weeks-aarrgghh!
Thank you all for your kind words and support...things are a little better...he is making a litle side money and we always do worst when there is financial distress (and I mean no food in the fridge distress)...I am looking for work, which is a joke cause I'd have to quit after 1 day standing at a cash register-lol...but I have to try
Have a good day y'allMaggie
getting by
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Posted 1/19/2012 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
Maggie,
You would be surprised what you can do when you have to. I didn't think I could work either and worked a few months at a stand up all day job. I quit after New Years, but I did it. Often just a change in scenery helps. So don't be pesamistic about
working. You can always try. IF you can't do it, maybe you should sign up for some sort of disability. But give it a try and see what happens. If nothing else, you tired. And if you can't do it, I would think of signing up for some assistance of some sort.
Be careful taking your hubbies meds. I have taken prozac. It worked well but made me fat. I could look at food and gain weight, but that doesn't mean that it is going to do that to you. Have you tried needymeds.com? They help you pay for your meds. Also a lot of the companies will give you free meds for a year. So think about
that. Think about
a new counselor. Yours left you high and dry. I am sorry about
that.
Keep posting hon. IT does help. We all are here to support you.
Hugs, Karen
bayoub2
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Posted 1/19/2012 5:33 PM (GMT 0)
Hey karen
How is the Vyvanse?
I am on ssdi already for chronic pain, fibro and MDD. Standing for 10 minutes has me in tears and a trip to wally has the same effect, but I refuse a scooter out of stubbornness.
I am trying for mystery shopper, home call center work, surveys...so many scams...but I am trying.
As far as meds go, if you have ANY sort of prescript
ion insurance, you do not qualify (is my understanding) but I do get my seroquel from the Catholic church pharmacy but they don't do the new antids.
I have to drive to local MH clinic and fill out paperwork and make appt for counselor-keep procrastinating-lol
Did a little yoga like stretching and alot of prayer...hubby is treating me much more kindly since I wrote him a letter...things will get better, I know.
We make $43 too much for food stamps-lol!! At least my daughter has terrific insurance thru the state so we can take good care of her.....Me-I'll make it, I always do
Love Maggie
daisy76
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Posted 1/19/2012 5:36 PM (GMT 0)
I know Maggie,
Things are hard here with money too. We're on one income (I don't work either) and it's really stressful, not to mention, always feeling guilty at how hard my boyfriend works and I'm not able to.
Going to start the long and frustrating process of applying for disability soon, and I expect to be turned down the first try at least. It's hard not letting it get to us or to feel overwhelmed. All we can do is take it one day at a time and do our best.
Would you be able to try to get assistance with food through your state?
We just got approved and it's already helped out alot.
I'm glad things are alittle better around your house at least.
I'm sorry to hear that your councelor dropped you :( That's horrible.
I hope that you can find a new one soon.
Sooo frustrating that you have to wait so long to get in to see your Dr. about
more meds. I hope the prozac helps you get over the hump at least.
Hope you have a good day.
daisy76
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Posted 1/19/2012 5:40 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry- must have been writing that as you were and you beat me to it! $43 too much?!? That's crazy that they can't let that slide.
How about
food banks?
bayoub2
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Posted 1/19/2012 6:08 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, hubby is heading there today...they are wonderful but so overwhelmed by the need..andthere is always all my husband's delicious fish from the bayou.... We may not have what we WANT, but God always makes sure you have what you need....
***Oh God, would you mind sending a new bod down with those groceries????LOL
Love you guys maggie
daisy76
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Posted 1/19/2012 6:41 PM (GMT 0)
LOL!:D Good, I'm glad you're getting some help. Hope you have a good day.
getting by
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Posted 1/19/2012 8:53 PM (GMT 0)
We were going to go to the local food bank but it was cancelled due to a winter storm. I don't know when they are gonig to do it again. Waiting to find out. It really helps.
Maggie, you are going to get through this. It will work out. I am glad that hubby is doing better and being nicer to you. Try to ignore him when he gets bad. Find something to do to take your mind off of him and his antics.
I know things have been hard, but you my friend, are a survivor. You have gone though tough times and came out alright. You will again.
We are all praying for you.
Hugs, Karen
Sometimes i am me (HT)...
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Posted 1/19/2012 10:43 PM (GMT 0)
here for you sweetie. jamie, (always)
sos007
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Posted 1/20/2012 12:01 AM (GMT 0)
Maggie....keeping you in my prayers...
Blessing, Amy
Post Edited (sos007) : 1/21/2012 3:53:51 PM (GMT-7)
bayoub2
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Posted 1/20/2012 12:04 AM (GMT 0)
Well, bless you pea-pickin' hearts y'all
Love to you guys
Maggie
Sometimes i am me (HT)...
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Posted 1/21/2012 3:50 AM (GMT 0)
and to yours maggie. how are you all doing? just checking in. love, jamie
Alaskah
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Posted 1/21/2012 4:12 AM (GMT 0)
I hope you are doing well. I'm so sorry to hear about
all of the obstacles you face. The determination you have for yourself and daughter is admirable.
You may be able to get an accommodation if you would get a cashier or similar position - it isn't unheard of or even much trouble for them to provide you with a stool or some sort of chair at the register. Being able to take more frequent breaks due to your pain may be reasonable, too, depending on their staffing situation. We even provide little heaters and fans to our cashiers in the winter/summer to help with the extreme cold and hot temperatures in our store. Some of them have doctors notes to wear sneakers (they're more comfortable for standing and are better able to accommodate shoe inserts). There are a number of simple things you may be able to do to make a job a little more bearable if you talk to the HR rep after starting work and seeing what you can handle.
bayoub2
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Posted 1/21/2012 1:36 PM (GMT 0)
thanks alaskah you are so right...i did interview for walmart greeter (which they hire seniors for) a few months back and they said no stool....they have one man out there in hi 70's for God's sake.
Anyway, this family has always found a way...thanks for the support
Maggie
Dandie4263
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Posted 1/21/2012 3:18 PM (GMT 0)
One does not understand abuse unless they have lived throught it themsleves. Trying to hold on to something that is no longer there does not do anyone any good. No matttter how you look at it, abuse is abuse. Weasther it be physical, emotional, verbal, spiritual, etc.If you are sick and unabel to defend yourself then you and your child need to leave, I know that it is so easy for me to sit here and tell you to leave. I have no idea of where you are but I know from personal experience that if you stay in this place where the verbal abuse is going on then it will only get worse instead of better. IF you have family that you can stasy with that would be a great place to start. However, if not, See if you can stay at the American Red Cross or Salvation Army or a shelter. If you have some friends that you can stay with I would. I know that you have a child. It is sad when a child who can not defend its self is put in the middle of it all. I would file for a divorce as well.
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