Death In The Family

I hope so too. I just don't want anyone to go through the same thing my sister did. I wasn't able to stop my sister's death but maybe if I can I want to help this girl.
They are going to reopen my sister's case, which I'm a little glad for. At the same time it scares me. I don't believe she would kill herself but...I have trouble believing that as bad as her boyfriend was that he would ever do something like that. It's just a really unpleasant thought.

I think that the medication might help you. Anything to take the edge off. I am glad that you are going to give it a try. I can't find that girl's post. It must be back a few pages. We have had a lot of new posts which pushes the older ones back. I will keep looking.
Hugs, Karen

I'll talk to her. I doubt I'll do much good when I couldn't even help my sister but I guess all I can do is try.

Hugsss Missy. My condolences to you and your family. It took me a year in grief counceling to accept my brother and his "Furry Son" (k9 dog partner) was gone. So keep doing one day at a time and in grief counceling.

I can just remember the day they were killed, we had him and the K9 and another brother deployed. Grandpa was in the military. We knew phone call away, its ok men at the door in harms way. I was in shock til I realized he was gone, a year later. I remember my mom calling me, as I live out of town, and saying he's gone. I told her "mom thats not funny. quit joking" she had to convince, and I mean convince me that he was killed in action during the Iraqi War. I don't know how my other brother handled it. He came home from Iraq too, he escorted my brothers remains and my brother's dogs remains home. It takes two weeks to even get back to the US. I was home for the welcome home parade, but did not go to the funeral. I didn't believe he was gone. It took me a year and a half to bring myself to go to his grave. I brought flowers, and I talked to him. I felt him, I felt him there. It was a clear, sunny, warm day not even a breeze. The birds chirped out a soft Melody and a big rush of breeze hit me. I looked around, not anyone else at other graves shivered. I knew, and I felt in my heart he was talking to me. I started talking to him and telling him how much I love him and miss him and wanted to know what happened. It was classified information. He came to me in my dreams, for an entire month showing me what happened. At a dedication they had in Colorado I had it confirmed by his CO who was there. I remember him asking "how do you know this" I told him "Kory through my dreams." I found out last year, as my youngest brother and I were talking I wasnt the only one who was blessed to find out what happened. My youngest had the same dreams, plus a dream where he was there in person hanging out like old times. Now I am an active military supporter, I am against the war, but not soldiers. I carry his name and his partners name to soldiers. So they know, despite heart broken, I will stand beside them and salute them. I also live by an ARMY base, I salute the halos going over me. I remember one time a couple soldiers leaning out the halo and one saluting me back. I guess they saw me.

So talk to us hon :) Keep talking hugsss

We are here for you, just keep talking hon. HUGGSSS

It just feels so strange knowing I'll never be able to talk to her again, never get to give her another hug, never get to tall her I love her one last time. I would do anything to have her back. Like I said they reopened her case and they are tracking her boyfriend down. I just want some closure but it isn't easy.

I think even though this is a horrible thing to find out, it will give you some closure now. Now you know what happened to her. I am so sorry hon. I know this makes you angry. It does me too. And I can understand how you would like to rip him to shreds. But he will get his. Karma is a you know what. He has to live with what he did. I am just so sorry that you had to suffer such a loss. Know that she is with you in spirit. Take comfort of the fond memories that you have of time spent with her. And most of all, take this one day at a time. Remember there are no rules when it comes to grief and we all suffer in our own way. And that is okay. You do what you need to to get through this time.

Take care, and keep posting. Remember we are all here for you.

Hugs, Karen

Hi Holly,

I would like to welcome you to the HealingWell Depression forum. I am glad that you have joined us. I want to mention I am sorry for your loss. I have lost many people that way too.

Take care, keep posting. If you would like to, feel free to start an introductory thread about yourself. We would all like to get to know you better.

Hugs, Karen

Thanks for checking in with us and letting us know how you are doing. You have every right to be angry with this guy. And don't feel guilty if you are. But forgiving is good too and can give you closure. I am really glad that you posted. I hope that this is a good day. Keep up with the counseling.

Hugs, Karen