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Posted 5/10/2012 10:34 PM (GMT 0)
Hey guys sorry to post again but as I said before i'm a 17 year old lad and I'm feeling scared about feeling depressed because as I am sure you all are aware it feels like an absolute dark tunnel. One of the hardest things to come to terms with is no friends or really anyone my age relating to the rock bottom feeling I am going through so i'm scared to almost plea for help from people around me as they have exams to worry about. I've just been put on 40mg of citalopram after being increased from 20 and then 30 mg. Just wonder if anyone has any practical tips for deeling with the sort of worthless, hopeless or insecure feelings or just any tips in general which have worked for any of you to break the bad habit of lying in bed for hours a day?

thanks for reading, hope it isn't too much trouble to respond :)
Posted 5/10/2012 10:42 PM (GMT 0)
Hi PMA,

I think that the thing that has helped me the most is learning to take life one day at a time. One moment if we have to. Stay in the present. Be aware of what is going on around you at all times. This keeps us from worrying about other things. Past and future... If you stay in the moment, your mind can't wander about things. Especially things that we don't have any control over. Try to go with the flow.

It really helps...

Hugs, Karen
Posted 5/10/2012 10:43 PM (GMT 0)
thankyou very much! I'll work on that :)
Posted 5/11/2012 12:32 AM (GMT 0)
Hey PMA. Don't be sorry to post. That is what HW exists for! First, you should realize that even if you "feel worthless", in fact you are not worthless. It is clear from your posts here that you are an intelligent, thoughful person. So it is just a matter of how to make yourself more happy and fulfilled. One thing to try, if you have not done so, is exercise. When I felt worst, my wife "forced" me to get outside in the morning and exercise. It is the LAST thing in the world that I wanted to do. I wanted to just sleep in. But it was good for me. Exercise has physiological and psychological benefits. I highly recommend it. Second, make sure you spend some time doing things you enjoy. Whatever that is. Sport, music, photography, nature, reading, eating ice cream. Whatever. Don't let days go by without doing anything enjoyable. Third, consider doing some things for others who are less fortunate. Maybe you can volunteer with the poor or some such thing. Many find helping others to be fulfilling. And it will show you that you are not worthless. These are just a few ideas, in addition to counseling. I wish you the best. Medved.
Posted 5/11/2012 8:30 AM (GMT 0)
PMA it is very tough to be depressed at 17. There are so many pressures, with study, social life (or lack of), family and anything else pertinent to your life individually.
17 can have a load of crazies around sex, relationships. It can be the time we decide what road we take for our future.

If your mum is supportive, have a chat to her. If she's one of those Mums who cheated on the Mummy Test (like mine), try to find someone you can talk to, preferrably someone older who has been where you are now - and found their way out.

It feels bleak and permanent - it is bleak but depression is only temporary and easily treated. Think about how you'd feel about getting some counselling - I know you might prefer having teeth pulled - and that is okay. (I only suggest it because meds and therapy together, get people better quicker).

The other things you can do to get better faster is reality test irrational thoughts. ie. you are worthless. even the person I hate most in the world still has skills and talents and you most certainly are better than that person!!! so the reality is you have worth - you just feel worthless. Our feelings are not facts.

Don't drink and don't use drugs while you are trying to recover from depression - illicit drugs will mess with your head - and your meds.... you can still have one drink if you are in a light social situation - but just don't get into binges - that is very dangerous with depression.

I think it is great that you have come here and got advice from people who have learnt to manage our depression. I hope you feel heard and supported by us too.

You are a good man with a bright future. The pain will pass. You don't always have to push past your depression. Allow yourself rest periods - and know any lack of motivation and fatigue is only temporary.

It will get better!!! I'm sorry right now sucks x
Posted 5/11/2012 2:05 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks very much for the messages and advice its great to be heard and that itself is a help! :)
Posted 5/11/2012 2:23 PM (GMT 0)
Sometimes that is all we need. Somebody to listen. I am glad this has helped you. Keep posting...

Hugs, Karen
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