Therapy

Hi Herald,

Nice to see you post. I go to therapy and take medications. I have been in therapy off and on for about 25 years. I go every other month now because the distance is far and I have been doing well. But I continue to go. It does help a lot.

Hugs, Karen

I think it depends on the situation. Some things are best left behind, but if it is effecting your everyday life, then it is worh looking into. I do have a tendancy to ignore things. So if I have issues, I don't know... I let things slide by... I don't find it worth rehashing. But I dealt with a lot of past issues when I was in my thirties. I am in my fifties now. I had a cruddy past and childhood. But now life is good and I want to keep it that way. Though there was a time when I didn't feel that way. But you need to recognize it, acknowledge it and then put it all behind you and live for the present. Life goes by too fast to dwell on the past or worry about the future. Live in the moment. It is actually easier once you let yourself do that. I wish you the best.

Hugs, Karen

This often happens especially if the person who dies is the one who was abusive towards you. It kind of sounds like it is her. Then we feel safer and a lot of things start coming out in our minds. Because we can handle it now. Was she abusive to you? Do you think you are going through post traumatic stress disorder? That can happen at any age. I am really happy that you have a threapist to help you through this. Take it as it comes. If you are thinking about it too much, then write it down on a piece of paper and put it somewhere safe. Maybe you can move on with things easier. Kind of like a safe place for your thoughts. It is funny what the past can do to us, but you will deal with this at your pace. You are on a healing journey, which isn't always easy. But it is doable, and it does get easier along the way. Keep on keeping on.

Hugs, Karen

As time goes by, you may become angry at the way she was. I always had a way of forgiving my mother, and she had a way of making me feel guilty. But I think I have come to terms with that. I did have my anger for awhile, though I felt bad for her mostly.

You will get through this, take each step as it comes. The stronger you get the more that you will see it for what it is. Or was... It isn't easy, but your mind protects you and gives you only as much as you can handle at any given time. ptsd is strange. But I think it is necessary to cope. Our mind is complicated in ways that we can't even imagine. Just take this as it comes, one day at a time.

Hugs, Karen

I think that is a wonderful idea. I hope that it works for you. I find writing things down really helps. I don't really know how to explain it, like documenting your feelings, then you can see them from different perspectives and examine them. Good luck. Let me know how it goes and if it helps.

Hugs, Karen