Need help dating woman with depression

The letter was sent to me, but she wanted me to send it to my friends. I am ***? I told her my friend was with me when she was freaking out and I had to leave the room so he didnt hear her going nuts. The letter said that I was obsessed with her facebook. I am upset that she can tell 1700 people where she is going to be but not tell me. Doesnt make sense. She still wont answer the question. All she says is what is the big deal. I say EXACTLY, what is the big deal? How can I trust you if you cant be open with me about something that stupid. I am going crazy because none of this makes any sense to anyone but her. Thanks for letting me vent.

Hi,

I have an update I need advise on.  She has dumped me for the 100 time and now she wants to talk again but she wants her "space"  This is a big word in her life.  I dont even know what that means.  She says I am insecure and its a turn off which is why she gets mad.  I finally got pissed and told her everything about her bad attitude, how she lays  into me with  all her bad history in life how negative she is and how one day she is nice and the next a total cold stranger.  She was silent and said that maybe she isnt ready to date because of her past.  She said she is not happy inside with herself.  I asked her why she keeps coming back to me and she said its because I am the only guy to understand how she feels.  I told her that this is the root of our problem.  If she doesnt love herself, how can she ever be happy with me or anyone.  She just said nothing.  I dont know if I am wearing her down to get to the truth, but she talked about her meds, just didnt give me any details about why she takes them or if she is talking to anyone professonally.  I dont know if this is depression or not.  Just thought I would ask.  She really beats me down and tries to turn this on me, but when I stand up for myself and give her the facts, she just becomes silent.  Thanks for listening.

Hi,

I hear you, just to say that she told me I am the only guy who understands.  I dont understand at all.  I have walked away again.  Thanks

 

I agree, stay away this time. She will be most likely trying to pull you back in, but don't fall for it. You can't continue with this type of relationship. It isn't healthy.

Goos, it might not be easy, but you need to do this.

Best wishes...

Welcome to the forum Fiery1,

Well said!

I hope you continue to post as you go through these changes it will help with all the emotions you will be feeling.

Very good that you stood your ground! Feels great doesn't it?

she is on celexa, and she is PISSED I found out. I asked her to stop arguing about how I found out and asked her to talk to me about why she is on it. She says that she is not ready to talk to me about it. She then said she wants to add another week to her space because we fought again about this. It just goes round and round. One day she is sweet as can be and then socks me with all her negativity ect. I told her that I give up and I am leaving her. I told her I really care for her but I cant continue because of how hurtful this is. Im fighting to see her and she thinks I am being selfish because she needs her "space with her anxiety" I dont know what that even means. I am not calling her. I am on day three. Its hard because I care about her, but my mental and phyical health are draining and I cant have that over a girl. I understand. Thank you for your support, it just very hard because I want to be helpful, but all I am doing is killing my soul for a woman who just gets close and then pushes me away. Im so sad inside from all this, I just want to hug her and make it all go away.
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Her actions show that it might be more that just not getting over the grief of the previous boyfriend. It is more like the enjoyment of power and mind games.

Again, be strong and STAY AWAY! Some things just can not be fixed unless the person does it themselves.

Recoveryme,

You have to understand that folks come here confused for guideance, everyone is in a difference place in their healing journey.

We all need to respect where each other is at, all our journeys are painful and we try to support each other.

If you have been where Crying is, share it please; I am sure that Crying realizes the mistake already. Remember we are here to support not beat each other up. We do that to ourselves enough.

Just saying...

Hi again,

I do hope you can get away from her. I know it's really hard because you had very high hopes for this relationship. Even though it's hard you still have to do it. This girl is just messing with your head.

Keep us posted on how you are doing. There are people here who care and are willing to listen :)

Can I ask a question without being reamed? If this is taken out of context its not meant too sorry. Is it normal for depressed to treat you good one day and then disappear and only text ect. It was our problem, everytime it went good I knew she was going to be gone and cause an issue with being bad the next time. Im not contacting her, but I am so confused as to how a woman can say so many nice things to me and then just jump down my throat and be so cold the next. I never knew what I was getting. Also, she cant acknowledge the bad things she says to me and says she never said them. Here lies my confusion...thanks, Im trying to heal myself because I really am going to miss the sweetheart, but it just comes and goes like the wind.