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Posted 10/12/2012 7:27 PM (GMT 0)
I'll go into this further later; but, for now I have a question or two.  I have slipped into depression because of differences between my g/f and me.  She doesn't understand depression and why people face it.  I'm not getting support from her at all and our relationship is becoming toxic from this.  She has become cold and callus.  Now I don't understand why she can be like this when she tells me she cares for me.  I'd be there for her in a split moment.  Is it wrong for me to expect or hope she will come to terms with my depression?  I've asked her for her support yet she tells me I need my family and friends.  Not her.  We live under the same roof.  We are on the verge of a break up and it's making me sink even more because I do love her so........

Any advice? 

Thanks   

Posted 10/12/2012 8:34 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Russyou,

You have to get better for you and work on you and her later. The most important thing right now is you. See a doctor and get hooked up with a therapist. It will help you.

People who aren't depressed, don't understand what we are going through. They don't understand the feeling of sadness or hopelessness. Or the desperation that we go through. So try not to get too upset that she doesn't understand right now, and forgive her. Work on your mental health. Then if the two of you are meant to be together, you will.

I hope that you feel better soon. Keep posting, get yourself some help so that you can feel better. There is hope for that.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/13/2012 2:50 AM (GMT 0)
The most depressing moment in my life was when we left our old house for 10 years an moved from another house. It was like half of my life was there in that house and the memories are all there. I really cried as I rode on the advance removals that we hired.
Posted 10/13/2012 8:45 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Connielee,

Welcome to the depression forum. I am glad that you have joined us.

I am sorry that you had to leave your old house. But take solace in those memories. Remember the fond things and then move on. I know it is hard, but the one thing in life that remains the same, is that there will always be change. Big things and little things, but yes, change... Know it is a part of growing in our own way.

Keep moving forward... Stay proactive with your mental health.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/13/2012 7:37 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome Connielee and Russyou,

You have come to the right place for support and to fine people that will listen.

You do have to be proactive in your mental health though. You have to work about YOU and not other people so much at this point.

Tallking to your doctors and getting on meds and in therapy will be a great positive step for you both!

There are also some great web sites for mediation and mindfulness, mindfulness.org and mindful.org that can help you focus on the now and you. See the posistive in you lives.

Please keep posting and know we care.

Trina
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