depression from menopause or grief???

Hi Nicjordan,

It sounds like it could be a little of both. You are probably going through perimenopause, which to me is just the beginnings of an early menopause. I am 53 and have already gone through it. In my 30's I had my tubes done, and they punctured my uterus. I was in perimenopause for a long time. Hot flashes, night sweats, moodiness. Plus with the loss of your father (and I want to offer condolences on that), I am sure that is weighing on you too. That was only five months ago and it takes time to get through the loss. I am sure that you are hurting emotionally from this.

Do you see a doc, or go to counseling? Counseling would be a good place to start. Or talk to a gynocologist about maybe taking some hormone medication. Like I say, it sounds like a combination of a few things going on. ONe day at a time. Live in the moment. You will get there. Coming here is a start. It helps to talk to people who understand.

Keep posting, it helps.

Hugs, Karen

I guess that there really wouldn't be a "quick fix", but that doesn't mean you can't start feeling better. And recognizing all that is going on and effecting you is going to help you. Grief counseling is helpful, and the counselor might see things a little more objective than close family if that is what you think you could use. But you are lucky to have family around to support you, so use that... I really think hormones could be playing a part too. I think you are right in maybe needing a change in antidepressants. I took effexor for 15 years, and now I am on pristiq. I felt pretty good on the effexor, but I do like the pristiq better. It is expensive though.

I hope that you find what works for you. Try walking a little everyday. It helps, even if it is just for a few minutes.

I try to walk daily. I don't go really far, but I do walk. It helps me mentally and physcially.

Take care, and have a great day!

Hugs, Karen