Will someone please just say hello?

Hi there, I'm feeling very depressed right now and I just want to "hear" a friendly voice. I feel like my life has completely fallen apart. I am unemployed (with no vocation), in my mid thirties, I live in my mother's house with my grown-up sister....we are an extremely dysfunctional family. I am not on speaking terms with my other sister and brother....I feel like I can't stand being around anyone. My close friends live in other cities to mine....and I have no social life. I feel completely alone. My mother and sister are so needy...and no matter how I try to help be there for them, I'm always left feeling like I'm not allowed to just live my own life...that I someone how have to rescue them....even though I don't feel like I even have the strength to rescue myself from my desperate situation.
Whenever I talk to my best friend about it....she just gives me advice....she doesn't just listen. And my other friends don't want to hear about my problems. It makes them uncomfortable if I tell them that I am "depressed".
I'm thinking about going to counselling but my last experience with it was not very positive and I worry about spending money I don't really have on it....and then it not being effective.
I just feel so sad and hopeless and alone.

Hi (friendly voice here!)

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. I really would give counseling another shot though. One bad experience might be enough to turn you off it, and I understand that, but it took me several counselors to find the right one and she has (literally) saved my life more than once.

Anyway, I'm glad you posted as I'm feeling alone and really having a tough day too.

Hope you're feeling a little better soon!! : )

Thank you Chris. :)

Hi Kittylhover,

I am glad you got some quick responses. As you can see, you aren't alone. We have all been through what you are going through now at one time or another. It is so hard when you get depressed.

I would think about trying counseling again. As was posted above, sometimes it takes time before you find the right counselor. But when you do, it really does help.

Coming here helps too. There are some wonderful members here as you can see. I hope that you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen

WITH MUCH HEALING COMPASSION TO ALL, JAMIE.

PS HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT THERAPIST AND IT IS GOING EXCELLENT.

Hey there,

I can honestly say I know how you're feeling my family life is the same way. You have to stay strong though, you're obviously a strong woman, as far as your family goes do your best to help them but keep yourself at a distance. You cant take care of other people when your own problems need to be addressed.

Hi my name is Cathy and I'm going through alot of what ur going through. The loneliness and loss of friends and family. My daughter who was actually my best friend left me in march and move to PA. now I feel like I've basically have no one. I to as well have talked to family and friends and they basically cut me off. I'm just now trying to get out and do things by myself and am seeing its not quite that bad. I feel and understand your feelings and (pain) I hope we can talk and become friends and maybe help each other.

Hello, another friendly voice
I know what you are saying, keep posting to stay in touch with the world. Try to go outside for short period of time, so that you get a chance to listen to you. I am going through a rough patch myself, I am unemployed trying to keep my house from being foreclosed on, while trying care of mother, who has throat cancer. I can't get my 24 yr old to understand , why she needs to get a job to help. My wife is at home after an operation and is off for the next 6 wks.
Give therapy another try, I found a great therapist ,who has been a godsend. So hang in there and keep posting , we are listening and we care.


anxiety, major depression, bipolar.

Post Edited (maxoman) : 7/12/2012 12:12:03 PM (GMT-6)

I can relate....Hope you feel better <3 <3

Hi Kittylhover,

Just saying a quick hello Hope you feel better. Don't give up. Things will eventually get better.

Take Care

UA

Hi there,

I really feel for you because that pretty much sums up my life and how i feel. I've been battling with depression for a long time, but i totally cut off my family and friends so literally all i had left until earlier this year was my bf and my pets. I also suffer from extreme anxiety which has left me unemployed for the past 6yrs, so my poor bf has been the sole provider and we struggle daily. So you're not alone, i feel your pain and i hope that you, me and everyone here can overcome this.

Thinking of you and hope you're having a better day.

Hi Mom55,

Welcome to the depression forum. Feel free to start a thread about yourself if you would like to. Know we are all here for you too!

I hope that your day gets better...

Hugs, Karen