someone help me understand what he means; text message

my ex texted me lastnight. We were together for a year and a half, i loved him more then anyone in the entire world. we had a future planned and i always thought he was the one for me. he had the same mutal feeling. we broke up 4 months ago, he broke up with me. and its because i started to pretend i didnt care about me and him. and we just started to play alot of head games with eachother. always trying to have the upperhand. we both let ego get in the way, and that is exactly why our relationship stopped working. we dont talk anymore. from time to time he would message me out of no where saying all these hateful things towards me.. and a week ago he said he was sorry for all the mean things he said to me, that he didnt mean it and wished me a merry christmas....

now lastnight he texted me again saying this:

"You should figure your **** out and grow up. You could make a guy very happy if you be yourself but you cant you have to pretend like your a down as* girl that some clown drug dealer would date. i know you and will tell you straight up if you be yourself and admit to your problems and express your feelings then youd make out fine but you cant. . I speak the truth, your not used to that. i dont give a **** who your with. i know you and what you need and what needs to be said to you. and im not scared to tell anyone what i think. im just sayin if you listen to me you will figure something out. but you wont cuz im not "real" when im the only one who has ever been real in your life."


this is completely out of no where, we broke up 4 months ago. im never even around him and he knows nothing about my personal liife or what i'm doing these days. i responded back a huge long text message but he hasnt replied back.

where did this come from, and why?

Most most of it is true. He actually is speaking the truth for the most part.
Just dont understand why? Why now? it's been months since our breakup

carrxo

More than likely he is reflecting on the past, due to the time of year. It does not always make sense.

If you want nothing to do with him, I suggest you block him from your phone, facebook, twitter anything he has access to contact you through. It does not sound like he is healthy for you.

Your relationship was toxic at best, sometimes you can not figure out what other people do. They have their own stuff they do or don't deal with that spills over into actions against other people.

You can control if these people contact you however. Your decision.

Stay strong in who you are.
Peace
Trina

To be honest with you, do u want me to say what u want to hear? that he still cares and wanted yo get back with u? dont focus on him, focus on yourself, to heal because obviously youre heart is not yet healed. if it was, then u wouldnt try figuring whats on his mind. i am in the same situation as you are, my bf and i have been together for 2 years and just recently we broke up, but we still send a text msg every now and then. Most of the time we fight and say hurtful stuff. Insulting each other and i would blame him why we broke up. This is not healthy. After a few days he would send me a picture of our cat, which breaks my heart , but i want this break up. The relationship was toxic and very destructive. so, i have to stand up for myself and be strong. life is too short for pain and misery. Reflect on yourself, is this the man u want to be with? Are u going to be happy? I hope things will get better for you.