Help me be my girlfriend's white knight.

There are cruel people in this world. One of these cruel people befriended themselves with my girlfriend when she was very young, and told her "Everyone is out to get you. Everyone wants to*****," for 3 years of her middle school life.
Since then, her favorite color went from pink to black; her wrists went scared, she started having daymares; she could't sleep in her own room anymore; she's been put on antidepressants, and she wears a charm bracelet as protection (charms her mom and friends have given her).
If you met her on the street, or in a store today, you would think you met the happiest person in the world. That is who she is on the outside, everyday.
As her boyfriend I want to help her to beat what's scaring her. If I could give her my confidence I would. The one time I tried asking her to sleep in her own room though, she almost had an anxiety attack and clung to her charm necklace, begging me not to ask her to do that. She wants to let go; Of material items shes been given by that bad man, and of her charm bracelet. I've been thinking about starting small and working my way up with her: Have her ****** a small items the guy gave to her, to eliminate memory anchors to her past, hopefully getting her to the point where she'll be able to sleep in her own bed again, and in the end, ultimately, to take this guy to court. Any advice, questions, help, would be greatly appreciated.

Post Edited By Moderator (BnotAfraid) : 1/4/2013 12:45:12 PM (GMT-7)

-Hey, thank you for your reply. I would never wish for anything that you have gone through, or my girlfriend has, to happen to anyone. I don't think those people should be allowed to live.
-Filling in the variables, my girlfriend was manipulated into believing people wanted her dead, and that she had to kill her parents along with other terrible things, when she was between 10-13.. The man didnt see her again until (5 months ago) she was 19. She showed him the marks on her wrists and he jumped/was in shock when she did. He said everything said to her was a joke and wasn't taken seriously. Later that day he texted her saying how he wants to "...be friends like we use to be". I told her to text him back saying "If you want to be my friend, you won't contact me again. You'll let me be. As you know I have to move on from my past. I can't do that with you in my life. Don't even reply saying 'ok'. If you ever want to be my friend, please, let me be." She did that and she told me that was the hardest thing shes ever done.
-I understand what you're saying about burning the bed and repainting the room, but I don't think that would fix things because as I said, she was manipulated into thinking that people wanted her dead. So I think it's more of a "there's a window my room [anchoring childhood memories], people can see me,****, that man might come in." Either way I can ask her how she would feel, or ask her what it is about her room that gives off so much anxiety.
-"When she is ready to let go of things, let it happen naturally." I found a ***** in her car that she said the man gave her today. I asked her why doesn't she throw it away. She told me she would **********. I want her to be strong and help her fight her fears, rather then run away from them and come back later. That is why in my first post I wanted to see if getting rid of small things and working our way up would be the best bet.

Post Edited By Moderator (BnotAfraid) : 1/4/2013 12:43:23 PM (GMT-7)

I thought because she was on anti-depressants that she already was seeing a councilor. Please get her to see someone immediately. A "gift" of a dagger is frightening. That might be cause for her to file a restraining order. The guy is nuts. Run a background check on him. He may already have a warrant out on him. It costs a little bit of money but it is worth it, if you can get this creep behind bars.