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Posted 1/20/2013 8:15 PM (GMT 0)
It's hard sitting there watching your dad cry while he's telling you that you're the reason he's crying..

My depression has taken a toll on him and he told me he can't handle it and that I have no place in this house

I'm starting to regret asking my parents for therapy.. Even though I know it was the best thing to do.

I know you guys can't do anything about it, and venting really hasn't helped much but, has anyone been in a situation like this? I don't think so.. And I really hope you haven't

Sorry about the "pity party":/
Posted 1/20/2013 9:55 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you had to go through something similar..
My entire family has medical background, but they don't understand it. It seems the people who should understand don't- and the ones that shouldn't, do.

I know he's just worried and he wants me better, it just bothers him that he doesn't know what's going on and that he can't help me

He told me he's failed because I need to go to someone else for my problems and no matter how many times I assure him that it's nothing to do with him and that this is a good choice he just cries.

My dad has been the most understanding about this whole thing and it's making me wonder how my mom is holding up.. I would just hate myself if I made my mother cry again
Posted 1/20/2013 10:14 PM (GMT 0)
Crying is a good thing, it cleansing and helps bond us to our family members, try not to look at it as a bad thing.

You are blessed that they are opening up to you and telling you their real feelings, even though they are not supportive. This may come in time. talk to your therapist about the situation honestly and openly.

My entire family has disowned me and not spoken to me for over 2 years now. Of course I have abuse in my history which complicates things, but I have no blood relations supporting me. So I can relate to your feelings.

I can imagine how hard this is for you currently, try to hang in there. Anything that is hard is worth fighting for.

Stay strong,
Peace
Trina
Posted 1/20/2013 10:26 PM (GMT 0)
It's encouraging for me to read this knowing others are in the same position. I basically got kicked out of my parents' house two Christmases ago because I was going through depression episode and was curled in a ball instead of baking cookies. Once when I cried in front of my dad he yelled "I can't take this!" and stormed out.
I don't tell my parents about depression anymore. Support network doesn't include them. Friends and outside resources are more helpful.
Posted 1/20/2013 10:31 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry all of y'all went through similar situations.. Horrible as it sounds, I'm glad you guys understand even though I would never wish this on anyone
My family believes in absolutely no privacy and even tell me that I'm allowed no privacy (they don't know I'm on this site though which I'm holding on to this being my only "private" thing)
So I can't really leave them out of the loop... But do you suggest I not rely on them for support?
Posted 1/20/2013 10:46 PM (GMT 0)
What about family counseling so they can learn that depression is a disease like cancer or anything else so they stop believing this is something you are choosing or that you can will yourself out of it?
Posted 1/20/2013 10:55 PM (GMT 0)
That's a good idea but my therapist is giving me troubles (i talk about him in previous posts)
Basically he doesn't let me talk much and he is a one-session kind of person (since he's faith-based he believes you can "will" yourself out of it)
So I'm not sure but ill bring it up with him
Thanks for the advice..
Posted 1/20/2013 11:05 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for your ideas, ill try some out and I understand what you mean when your parents think it is a reflection on them, mine are the same exact way.
I understand I can't change them but I do need to focus on this, i can't focus just on me- my therapist called me selfish
Posted 1/21/2013 10:52 AM (GMT 0)
You may need a different therapist. It is not selfish to focus on you. Basically focus on the now. The present. You can do for others and focus on others when you feel better. So don't let him get you to thinking you are selfish. I think a school counselor would be better for you right now. Try and see about it. If you are still in school. I hope things get better soon.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 1/21/2013 2:29 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for the idea, my school counselor isn't that great she just types on her computer the whole time.
Also, I'm a religious person so it's important to me to see a faith-based counselor

Thank you everyone for the advice, I will try going back to my school counselor and my therapist again- if things don't work with him I will fry and find a new therapist

Thanks again and have a good day everyone
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