Alcoholism

I have tried A.A. many times, left there and headed for the bottle shop.   I ccouldn't sit and listen to all the stories of people feeling sorry for themselves and a few would come in reaking of alcohol. My thoughts were that they should have been asked to leave for the sake of others. I do go to what used to be Women for Sobriety and is now The New Life Program (NLP) which is now for both men and women in seperate groups. as alot of the women have been abused by men. I find tthis is alot more helpful as they have "Affirmations" which are very positive and look towards the future and not what you have done, but where you are going. As my moderator is fond of saying "Wherever you go, your head goes with you"   I haven't been going for a while due to my financial status, a few of their meetings have stopped in my area for lack of Funds, so I have tto travel to get to one.

I just had to share this: I watched the Robin Williams Live and Uncensored last night and at the end (after the show) He does a little skit with himself and says "What's right is What's left if you do everything else wrong" so I wrote it down. I thought it rather poetic from one Alcoholic to another.

I appreciate your message and know they work for alot of people and do good work. I am not putting them down AT ALL. They do work for alot of people, but I have tried many all around Melbourne over 15yrs, but I find they actually make me want to drink, so I stick to my NLP meetings.

I looked it up and it looks to be a US org. I am in Australia, but I sent them an email asking if they could possibly supply me with any information anyway. Can't hurt, right?

There's that HOPE thing again. I have almost have given up hope of seeing her again and have taken all photo's of her down as it makes me too sad to look at them.

I know I have done this to her myself and it is no-one's fault but my own and have to take responsibility for it, but I just don't know how to prove to her that I have changed if she won't have anything to do with and her father and his family discourage her from doing so.

Legally, I have full custody and could go to court, but that would only make things worse. I am told by everyone (friends, meeting moderars, therapists etc) that eventually she will come back. But I also know her well and she is as stubborn as me and is trying to hurt me as much as I hurt her.

Yes, I always thought Australia was too. I see so many double standards here at the moment. One of the women at my daughter's old school was an addict. (I thought she was recovering) so I thought we had something in common and got on well. Turned out Dept of Human Services had been in hers and her childs life since her child was born, then 8yrs. She has all the help in the world because she has a drug problem and gets to keep her child while using. I was not drinking in front of my daughter, did it once and they told me it would be best for her to go to her father's for a while. Although there was nothing in place legally I said Yes as I didn't want to get into anything legal. Now I can't get her back!

I called Department of Human Service and they said point blank "That case is closed" and that was it.

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