Posted 3/14/2013 11:58 AM (GMT 0)
I have posted on here b4 but my situation has changed recently! I have been dating a guy for a very short time about 6 weeks. We are both in our 40's, I am separated as is he. After the first 2 weeks of dating he told me he had depression and is on medication, no councellor though, he said he has never had depression in his life and he hates it. After some time it became apparent that he hasn't dealt with the break up of his marriage, his wife left him and has broken his heart. He really cares about me a lot, and doesn't want to hurt me and I tried to give him space but he just couldn't do it as he could tell I wasn't happy. He said he has realised that he needs to heal and I understand that as much as my heart feel like it has broken. I asked him if he would want to see me one day when he is ready and he said yes but that he doesn't want me to wait for him as he would hate it if he knew i was miserable. he wants me to enjoy life and if I meet someone else it is his bad luck and if not and I am still around when he is ready then it was meant to be.
Problem is this. I really like him and I want to wait, I think he is worth it. Because he is so down, I am also worried about him and want to see how he is going from time to time but I don't want to seem needy. We only just called it quits 2 days ago (he text me the day after to see how I was going and to apologise again) he is more worried about me then himself! How long should I wait before I send him a text? (Oh he has my swimmers that I left at his place so I have to get that back at some point but he is away with work for 10days). should I send him a text at all or wait for him to contact me? I just want him to know that I care and he isn't alone but maybe that isn't the best thing to do ? I just don't know. Any advise would help me.