Just lost a close family member...

thank you for your reply yes i love my uncle very much i just cant crying i dont know if i can be strong for my family i have an 85 yr old grandma and she is taking it very hard i am scared for her and my mom because my uncle and my mom were very close. I couldnt even go see him in the hospital my family is reck right now my uncle died and i have a brother that is biporler and he is out of control and he wont get help my family has called the cops on him breaking windows and other things he make death threds to everyone i feel like im in a bad dream and i cant wake up it is so depressing sometimes that u turn my phone off and just stay in my house hoping maybe it will go away but it doesnt .

Sorry about your loss dio. Things will get better. Hang in there.

UA

Thank you for your reply its good to know im not alone it is hard i havent been able to sleep since my uncle pass i just keep asking god why did he have to him from us the doctors had given him 30 days to live he didnt even make it thats long it so sad

no i have never gone any counseling i know it would help but i just dont have the money to pay for it i know i will be alright but it just hurts alot right now i just want to be happy and not sad see im 36 yrs old but im a kid at heart i didnt really have a childhood i had to take care of 2 brothers and 3 sisters so now that everyone is pretty much grown up i feel like i can be me i use to love to dance and listen to radio i cant do those things because everythings just seens so dark right now even if the sun is shineing on me is it wrong to want to be happy when everyone elsa is sad and hurting uugh i just want to give up

Hi again. I thought about going to grief therapy, but have never gone. I should go one day just too see what it is like. I lost my grandpa in 1993, grandma in 1995 and uncle in 1997. It was when I found out my uncle passed away that I became depressed. Though I was really close with my grandpa and grandma and of course uncle, it just became too much for me too deal with. I wasn't diagnosed officially with depression until early 2003 or 2004.

My treatment has been going well I feel. I have a great doctor who really does care. Only on one medication. I have my days and my moments, but I have been better considering. I used to suffer pretty bad anxiety, but that has lessened. The medication does help, but other things helped lessen the anxiety as well. Depression on the other hand, no better, no worse. I did try group therapy three or four times, but I didn't learn anything. It was with people who have depression and anxiety, whatever they had. I thought I'd learn from other people how they dealt with their anxiety and depression in day to day life, but all they talked about was what they did during the day. Nothing regarding symptoms, nothing regarding coping skills. I learned nothing. I wish I could do group therapy in person, but I learn more here on Healing Well. Just to clarify, I know what do, I have the knowledge about coping skills and such on my own. It's just putting it into practice as I tend to not put into practice when I must. I hope to be Happy Healthy and Well.

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I'm so sorry for your loss Dio, I know this is a sad time for your family but stay strong, your Granny needs you. I know no words can describe your pain, and words cannot comfort you entirely. What I will say is this: be close to one another, cry with each other, and most importantly, remember him as the person before the illness. Comfort doesn't come quickly, only time can heal you and your family's hearts. I think counseling is great, and self help books. Talking it out and getting help through this will be wonderful for you. I wish you and yours happiness and peace, and that the grief passes soon. Also remember that Healing Well is here for you, if you need someone to listen. People here are very compassionate.