Lonely and Depressed

Hi Adria,

Come clean with your doctor. He deals with this a lot . . . so he should be understanding. Sometimes these symptoms can be brought on by an underlying illness or defitiency too. So it would be a good idea to give your doc ALL the info.

We really are creatures of habit and many of us like a regimine. You don't sound crazy to me!

Keep posting and check back with the doc. If you can't talk to him, write it alldown and send it or bring it in to your visit.

Blessings!

hi Lonely and depressed you sound just like me, you know you can get help and no one will think your crazy talk to your doctor and he/she could probably recommend a therapist. For me it has really help to talk to a therapist, it has really help me to focus on what I have to  everyday instead of feeling depressed. I still have the same problem, like if I don't have anything to do it really hits me, but the therapist has helped me in recognizing what makes me sad and why and how to stop letting those thoughts from ruining my days.

Hi,

I understand the place that you are in.  I too only work during the school year and my coworkers would not have a clue that I have depression or that I go to therapy two times a week.  I am not comfortable revealing it because there is a fear that I will be judged.

Like others have said, start by talking with your doctor honestly and he/she can direct you to a therapist if you would prefer to start there first.  Its hard to have a nonsupportive family it really is, I have been in the process of building my  own support system because the reality is my family doesn't understand.  A therapist can be a huge support especially if you are feeling a lone or isolated.

Please let us know how we can support you.  Let us know how you are doing.

Hi Adria.....I just wanted to tell you that I hide behind a mask.  I spend all of my days crying, curled up in a ball and I am so lonely that sometimes it feels like I just want to die.  I have been ill for a very long time.  Little by little my friends gave up on me and my family does not understand, I think they feel helpless.  I know I do.  The hopelessness covers me like a blanket and I get so tired of hiding it.  Just because I don't want to live depressed all of the time, it does not mean that I do not want to live or that I am suicidal.  However I do not think there are to many people who have not had that thought at least once in their life.  I have a disease that there is no cure for. Lyme Disease.  I have lost the last 13 years of my life.  I am confined to a bed and isolated from the outside world.  If it were not for my faith, I do not know what I would do.  I really believe you will come through this victorious,  God may have a special plan for your life and you have to go through this in order to be effective in what he has for you.  I know how hard it is to get up.  Sometimes I cry because I wake up and have to go through it all another day.  No one understands unless they have been there.  The main thing is there are meds out there that will help.  Not all of them cause weight gain.  The next thing to do is Talk.  Find someone you can let all of your feelings out to.  It helps me to tell the total truth about the way I feel about life,  I go through more kleenex than Moby **** had minnows!  You are not alone and you are not crazy.  It is not your fault and it is not in your head.  Nobody wants to feel like this all of the time.  It is horrible. Adria...I am here for you anytime,,,day or night...I do not want to push you but if you decide you would like my e-mail just say the word.  Maybe we can help one another.    You hang in there and don't be so hard on yourself.  Some times we all need to lean.  I am leaning....you can lean on me and we can hold one another up!!  That should be a pretty picture .....Bye for now and I hope to hear from you!!!    Kokoe

I too have been in the same boat. To be totally honest you really need to speak to your Dr about this and maybe get some meds into you. Not all anti-depressants put on weight. That was always one thing that I would make sure with the Dr before he would medicate. I am normal in weight but suffered with anorexia when I was a teenager so that was one thing that I didn't want. When you see the Dr ask if he can put you on a med that doesn't have weight gain as a side effect. I know that Prozac didn't put weight on with me but Prothiaden definately did. I too was a great hidder of my emotional problems but you really need to express your concerns with somebody.