need help asap

Just very overwhelmed right now. Don't know what to do.

1. Back with a bf that I know I shouldn't be with. Many reasons

2. 3rd (1st was reduced to reckless)dui court on August 5th. I need a lawyer but don't have finances

3. Parents (in another far away state)don't seem interested in talking to me. They don't know about the bf or dui. They would be devastated. But even though I sent them a loving anniversary card, all they could say was thanks in a text.

5. Went to bf's sister's (met her & husband for 1st time) house for 4th of July. Tried very hard to be a good guest. Washed the dishes even tho she had a dishwasher, cleaned the guest bedroom, bathroom, etc. Sent her a thank you for hospitality card. She didn't thank me for card but said thanks to bf.

It may not hurt to see of you can sign up for some rehab through your local hospital. It will help in court and may help you meet people who are experiencing the same things you are.

I would seriously deal with the dui's. If this is your third, you may do some time. Get legal representation now and find out what is going to happen. Get into AA or some type of rehab. I wish you the best. Take care sweetie, we do all make mistakes.

Hugs, Karen...

Omg, I need to leave for good. How can I be so stupid to give this man so many chances??

Unfortunately, I live with him & have no where else to go. He expects me to do things for him like laundry & cleaning even tho he complains when I don't do it right. At least he cooks good food. I can't suggest anything for him to do even when he plans to do it anyway. For example, covering up of eyesore of a old broken down truck. He yelled at me that it was his dream to fix it. He has had it for years with no minutes starting on it. Next day, he told me he had sold it.

Anyways, I have an appointment with lawyer on Friday morning.

Karen: I understand that its fair of me to clean up. I like doing dishes after meals. Just wish I didn't have to clean so much after him. He used to help me with the laundry, now he doesn't. If he was planning on selling truck, he shouldn't have yelled at me when I suggested a tarp over it.

Just focus on you. So what if he expects you to clean? I find cleaning to be a good way to clear my mind. I pump up some music and clean my worries and stress away.
Try and keep him from getting to you. I know it's not the ideal situation but you have so much going on that this should really be the smallest issue on your list.

I don't think anyone is saying that. I think we're all trying to encourage you to take it one problem at a time. I think the legal issues would be the most important and frightening. I know my current legal issues have me a mess.

If you want to leave him, then leave him. I believe if you're unhappy then you should pursue your happiness. Just make sure that's what you want.

You said he was a lot older than you were. How old is he? He may not be feeling that well. And not noticing your needs. You should be thankful for a roof over your head and food. There are a lot of people who don't have that. Do you work anywhere? If not, there are chores you should be doing. But you don't deserve to be treated badly. You are a human being with feelings. Can you talk to him about this? You are getting help here, we are trying to give advice to you. I think he expects you to do things around the house. And if he owns the house, that is fair. We all have to chip in. But you do need emotional support. I would talk to him about that. Let him know how you feel. I am sure he will understand. If he doesn't, then you have some decisions to make. There are homeless shelters, and they help you get on your feet. Often help you to find work. Do some serious thinking. Decide what it is that you want.

Hugs, Karen...

Thanks everyone for their replies.

I need someone's opinion. How do I talk to my boyfriend about finances? I don't work and he is retired. I am going to need help with this dui fees. I can't ask my parents. I help my sister with her finances (which is another issue because I give her $ for important things & I know she uses it to buy stuff @ mall)

My bf has a little money. But it seems like lately, all he wants to do is spend it on things like cigarettes and stuff for his new house.

Do I just try to find somewhere to work or do I ask him to help me even tho I am scared he is going to be angry?