Help for my husband?

Yesterday, I had a complete meltdown after almost a week of doing good.

My husband asked what was going on and the more I tried to explain the more reasons I felt like I was completely useless.

It ended with me in a huddle of tears on the couch, and him with his head on his hand with tears rolling. (He RARELY cries, even at funerals.)

I hate what this is putting him through and wondered if there's anything I can do to help him deal with me being... ugh, what I am right now.

Any suggestions?

BeRock,

I hope that things get better. Know that your husband can weather a lot more than you think. He will be okay. There are books for people in his situation like Trina said. Maybe that would help him, something for the caregiver...

Take care sweetie...

Hugs,Karen...

Oh i am right there with you. I just had a meltdown today that left my fiancé asking if i was ready to marry him, and if WE were ready to get married. I immediately went to what has been my biggest fear since we got engaged. That the wedding is off. I was devastated, all i heard was "i don't want to marry you because you're crazy and I'm having second thoughts". I haven't been able to enjoy my engagement because I'm so scared that he is going to change his mind. This man is the love of my life, I've made enough mistakes to know that he loves me more than anyone in my life ever has.

My advice is this...never give up! I do not think i will ever get "better". But he is the reason i try. People say that you have to love yourself before you can ever truly love anyone else. I disagree 100%. Like you, i hate myself. I hate who i am in every way possible, i wonder how anyone could ever like me, let alone love me. I cant change for myself because i dont think I'm worth it. So I'm working on getting better for him. I hate when people tell me never to give up. Just try not to.

There are resources for loved ones of people who are bipolar, send them that way. Do some research and give him the info, don't stop looking for the right meds, go to therapy, and let him know whats going on with you. Just show him that you are doing everything that you can to get better.

Having a bad day? Just tell him ahead of time if you're feeling more off than usual so he isn't surprised by an outburst.

Also let him know that he cant fix you and you aren't expecting him to. Men are fixers and don't know what to do with us. They try their best and when they cant, they get upset and feel like they are doing something wrong, like they are helpless and that leads to frustration and ultimately resentment. Tell him that he cant fix you, that when you're freaking, you just need him to listen and sympathize. Thank him for just being there for you.