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Posted 10/7/2013 1:38 PM (GMT 0)
I wish I knew where to start. My life is such a mess. I'm ready to be evicted, my job of 27 years is in jeopardy because of my depression and my ex has managed to garnish my wages because I didn't show up in court and the judge granted him everything. I can't afford to pay rent anymore and I have no one to turn to
Posted 10/7/2013 2:08 PM (GMT 0)
I was married for 19 years ro a sociopath with NPD (therapists deduction not mine) When I married him I though I was wife number 3 but it turns out I was wife number 6. I started drinking until I finally got the courage to divorce him.. He had a player piano he said he would give to out daughter when he died but he asked me to keep it s he had no place to put it in his apartment. Then he sued me to stop child support and since my daughter was almost 18 and I had gotten a restraining order against him I didn't go to court. He told the judge the piano was worth 28,000 dollars and she agreed. I appealed, apologized and explained I had 3 appraisals stating the piano was only worth a few hundred dollars. She denied my petition for reconsideration. Depending on how many hours I work a paycheck he receives between $310 to $450 of my money every two weeks. I am so far in debt I can't even afford the attorney to file bankruptcy. I suffer from chronic migraines and thy are increasing. My daughter just dropped out of college to help me with the bills. I feel like everything I've worked for was for nothing
Posted 10/7/2013 2:14 PM (GMT 0)
It isn't for nothing. Know that, if nothing else, it is lessons learned, hard ones though... I would keep checking around for an attorney that will help you with bankruptcy. If nothing else, learn to do it by yourself.

Life is full of hard knocks, and it is even harder when you are depressed. I am sorry your ex sued you. It doesn't sound right. But what can you do??? I think if you file bankruptcy, this will go away. Your ex is an ******. I am sorry.

I am sorry that your daughter dropped out of college, but know that was her decision, not yours. She will catch up in time. It is nice she is helping you.

I hope you aren't drinking anymore, it only adds to the depression as alcohol is a depressant. Try to see a counselor, apply with family independence agency. See if they can help you in any way.

Keep your chin up and keep posting as it really does help. And welcome to the forum.

Hugs, Karen....
Posted 10/7/2013 2:16 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for listening, I appreciate it
Posted 10/7/2013 3:10 PM (GMT 0)
Oceandrop,

check with Womens' agencies and see if they have any references for lawyers. You were tech. emotionally abused so it should fit the bill for help.

So sorry to hear about your situation, however know that it can change with help and little savy. At the very least call the 800# you see on TV for lawyers that advertise. They usually give free reviews of cases.

Karen is correct about the alcholol. You don't want to give your mental health away to anyone by drinking. You are very blessed to have such a supportive daughter, know that she can go back to school as soon as this is settled down.

I wish you peace and courage
Trina
Posted 10/7/2013 3:36 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you Trina, I will try. I just can't believe the Judge would make such a horrible ruling because I didn't go to court, and didn't he perjure himself if he lied about the piano? I don't want to fight him in court I just want him to go away. My daughter is amazing and I love her SO much. She is wise beyond her years. I also have a strong faith in God although no particular religion and that helps get me through. It's just I'm scared. I can't pay the rent and I don't know what to do.
Posted 10/7/2013 4:32 PM (GMT 0)
Generally if you don't show up in court, the other person gets pretty much what they want. I wish you would have gone, you probably could of gotten the right price. What happened to the piano? You couldn't give it back, I am assuming.

You would need some assessments on the piano in writing to get the price lowered. But I think it is too late now. I am sorry that they are garnishing your wages. I really would talk to an attorney about this. It would be worth your while. And about the bankruptcy.

But by not showing up in court, the court sees it as disrespect. I am truly sorry it hurt you so badly.

You are going to have to accept it for now. And move on if you can. We can help you with words. I know it is hard, and it is probably totally on your mind right now, but in time that will go away. You can make it go away faster by focusing on positive things. And actually there isn't much else that you can do. Other than to talk to a lawyer. Did you have a good excuse not to show up in court? They don't accept much for an excuse.

I hope that things get better for you. Keep posting as it does help.

Take care and have a good day...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 10/7/2013 4:57 PM (GMT 0)
There is something called Hyatt Legal services offered through my company I work for and the bankruptcy attorney said maybe the bankruptcy judge will be more lenient seeing as I have already paid almost 7,000 dollars through garnishment. I wish I would have gone now too but you are right I have to move on. It's just so hard to make ends meet and my daughter is depending on me, i don't want to let her down. I apologized to the Judge but it was too late, she didn't want to hear it. I just can't believe she or my ex would think it was ok when it caused my daughter to decide to drop out of college. If its the last thing I do I will get her back in college, somehow.
Posted 10/7/2013 8:21 PM (GMT 0)
I know you will. It is fantastic that she is trying to help you. I hope you can work with the people through the company you work for. That would be awesome. I have been sued a couple of times, but not for that much money. It really sucks...

I really think that things will work out and that your daughter will be able to go back to school. This is just one of those bumps in the road. Not any fun though. I hope you can get out for a walk or something nice today. It has been cloudy here and rainy most of the day. I am baking. But I hear that the weather is suppose to get better now. I hope so.

Keep posting, it does help. I find that coming here helps me a lot.

Take care and enjoy the rest of your day.

Hugs, Karen...
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