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Posted 11/7/2013 4:12 AM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone, I'm hoping to find some comfort by joining this community. I guess I should just start from the beginning as they say.

I'm 22, recently graduated from college. I'm now living back at home and have been since May. Home is a very bad environment, for as long as I can remember, my parents have been in a loveless marriage but they are still married. They are not in love with each other and their dynamic has clouded my thoughts of love and happiness with another person.

I fell in love this summer. Completely and utterly in love, and while this started out as exciting and promising, I soon learned that the feelings were not reciprocated and I cannot get over it. What hurts the most is that it was my actions that pushed him away, and I acted in such a way because of my insecurities and anxieties involving my parents.

I expect other people to be as open with their emotions as I am, this guy I love is not the type. I love people so much with all my heart, and I go above and beyond for the people I care for. I don't know why I can't love myself that much.

There are so many facets to my depression lately, I have a lot to say. So I'd appreciate any sort of tips, and if anyone would want to hear more details, let me know.
Posted 11/7/2013 9:40 AM (GMT 0)
HI RASPYVOICE, I AM JAMIE, THOUGHT I WOULD SAY G'DAY. SORRY about THE CAPS I AM VISION IMPAIRED. I DID MY BEST READING YOUR POST, NY THR WAY WELCOME TO THE FORUM. THIS IS A WONDERFUL CARING COMMUNITY MADE UP OF VERY SPECIAL AND DIVERSE PEOPLE.

FIRSRT DEPRESSION STINKS, AND THERE ARE DIFFERENT FORMS OF IT. AS YOU SAY MANY FACETS. MY FIRST PORT OF CALL IS ALWAYS MY GP. YOUR GP CAN HELP YOU WITH TREATMENTS ADVICE AND REFERAL. MAYBE SOME COUNSELLING WILL HELP YOU. IT REALLY HELPS GETTING THINGS OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND TALK WITH SOMEONE WHP IS IMPAERTIAL/ OTHER TIPS ARE JOURNELLING, GET IT OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND ONTO PAPER/ MINE IS MUSIC, I LOVE MY TUNES!!!

I AM SORRY about WHAT HAPPENED WITH THEW YOUNG MAN. HEY THERE ARE PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA. THE RIGHT ONE WILL EVENTUATE IN TIME-I AM FORTY ONE AND HAVE FOUND THE ONE. YEP IT CAN TAKE SOME TIME BUT FINDING THE ONE IS SOMETHING THAT DOSEN'T HAPPEN OVER NIGHT. I AM SORRY THAT YPU WEREN'T BEING RECI[ROCATED. SUCKS. I HAVE BEEN THERE, WE ALL HAVE. LIFE IS A JOURNEY SO TAKE IT NICE AND EASY. MY MANTRA ON THE FORUM IS SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE, AS IT DOES. I CAN ATEST TO THIS!!!

MY VISION WAS WORSE A FEW WEEKS BACK B UT I CAM MAKE OUT THE KEYBOARD JUST WITH THE USE OF A DESK LAMO. CAN'T SEE WHAT I AM TYPING THOUGH SO EXCUSE THE MISTAKES. OTHERS WILL COME ON WITH FURTHER INFORMATION. KNOW THAT WE CARE about YOU. WIL SEE YOU SOON, AROUND THE FORUM.

WITH HEALING COMPASSION,
THE HAPPY TURTLE.
Posted 11/7/2013 5:15 PM (GMT 0)
Raspy,

welcome to the form.

sounds like you need to set yourself some boundries.

You have to learn to wait and see what other people are about before giving your all, or you will hurt a lot more time that not. This is not to say you can't be nice and pleasant etc....

Do some research on boundries while you are studying, it may help you.

Peace
Trina
Posted 11/7/2013 8:51 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome, raspyvoice22. I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this.

While it may not help you today, I wanted to add on to what BnotAfraid mentioned about boundaries. There is a book called Boundaries in Dating by Drs. Townsend and Cloud that you may find helpful in the future.

Praying for healing and peace to settle in your heart!!
Posted 11/7/2013 10:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Raspy,

Sounds like me, I have a very raspy voice. It is one of a kind.

I think that the best thing you could do right now is work on you. Like Jamie mentioned, see your GP and go from there.

I believe boundaries help too. I am not really good with them myself. I often over do it until people get sick of me. Or refrain from social relationships all together. One extreme to another I guess.

I like being alone, but am in a relationship. We both kind of do our own thing and meet in the middle. We have a really open relationship though and can talk about anything. That is what I mean by open relationship. I am not afraid to bring anything up. It really helps. It is not good to guess what somebody is thinking. We can often be wrong.

I hope that you continue to post. It does help. You get a lot of feedback here.

Take care and feel better soon. Keep posting.

Hugs, Karen...
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