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Posted 11/10/2013 6:16 AM (GMT 0)
Hi jeoch,

Sorry I wasn't here earlier :/

Anyway for me, I was on meds for like few months but I've always hated it. It was horrible and it doesn't seem to do any work for me. I don't have any therapy. I stopped my meds until now and tried my best to overcome and I did. Eventhough I have my times on being somewhat loopsy and such, I could now take control of it. This forum is actually what made it possible and I hope you too would overcome it sooner or later. Best wishes for all the people in this forum !

Joanne
Posted 11/10/2013 6:17 AM (GMT 0)
Oh and by the way, if you're feeling down in the dumps, watch the ellen show. It always (well not really always but most of the time) cheers me up. She's plain hilarious.

J
Posted 11/10/2013 4:38 PM (GMT 0)
Medfree,hugs help me too.I love physical contact with people,especially with those i love.Hugs make me feel safe and loved but unfortunately im all alone and i feel lonely.I have no friends here and i want to make friends. How can i do that? My fellow students seem to be so busy with their friends and the communities that they make with their natives. My Erasmus boyfriend is gone and i miss him so much,it was the best thing that happened to me here. I feel very depressed the last 3 days.Soon,on the top of all these i have to study.Probably most of you will say just focus on your studies and everything else will be fine but it's not like that.How can i concentrate when i feel sad,anxious and that my life has no fun at all. I really wanna make things work,i want to be successful with my studies,i wanna be focused but first of all i want to be happy and satisfied. How can i fix my life? Any ideas?
Joanne,i watch Ellen sometimes :)
Posted 11/10/2013 4:57 PM (GMT 0)
jeoch,

You need to use daily coping skills in order to make thinks work and not loose focus in classes.

DBT, CBT, meditation, mindfulness are some of the top skills going to help you find the focus you need.

If you visit the resource thread at the top of the forum and some of blogs on this site you can get some more information of each subject.

It takes are work in the beginning, but after awhile, coping skills are like breathing, always there helping you.

Peace
Trina
Posted 11/10/2013 7:03 PM (GMT 0)
Baby steps , Jeoch. Try using a timer and study for about 15 minutes. Get up and move for 15 min, back to study, etc....
I know exactly what you mean about having trouble concentrating, until lately I haven t been able to read a book in its entirety in several years. I ve always been an avid reader so I wasn t happy about it at all ! Also, exercise will help increase the feel good hormones in your head :)
For hugs n friends, try and find a support group. ((((cyber hugs))))
Posted 11/10/2013 10:14 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Jeoch ......

   Dealing with the feeling of being alone is most important .... however you may do it! A counselor, therapist or psychologist is a good start - but please don't expect it to be an investment of two or three trips.

   I once went to a psychologist for over a year. It helped me greatly - at first weekly, then ultimately monthly. I was greatly encouraged to get out with people with some examples given of how that could be done.

   I felt balanced for many years after that .... but did go again to a couples counselor 7 or 8 years ago with limited success ... altogether about 5 or 6 sessions.

   And then just recently, I started with another psychologist ... this time with one who deals with terminal diseases - for that purpose. So, three different therapists for three completely different reasons. There were obvious stopping points for each of them - except maybe the latest one.

   The last therapist highly suggested getting involved with support groups. HW helps tremendously ... but sometimes more is needed - especially if you live alone as I have for over 20-years.

   I am starting my second month of three different support groups ... and it does fill a void that none of my family choses to fill. You see, I have a small family of a mother and two daughters .... and none of them are the least bit supportive, so it really can get lonely.

   HW, the cancer support groups, my oncology nurse practitioner and my dog and best friend, Gizmo .... are my total support system.

   I know how much support is needed. So is an occasional hug! A lot of good suggestions have been given to you from others here. I'm just coming from a little different place in life .... but with many of the same suggestions.

   I also recently started on a Lexapro generic ... so not all of my depression has been fought with just the work of a therapist.

Wishing you the very best.

Rob and Gizzy

 

Posted 11/11/2013 11:21 AM (GMT 0)
Wee bit by wee bit jeoch is how you do it.
I feel you, I was always supposed to study because at my school, all of the students have to study each and everyday because we don't have exams, instead we have tests like everyday so it's killing me.

I definitely feel you and so here is my advice for you, just like what medfree said, study bit by bit. I usually study while eating so that way I could enjoy it.. lol. Whenever you're out of concentration, stop and take a break because if you don't, it's most probably useless because you couldn't really understand what it is about.

It's okay if you don't have friends and have a hard time at school because let me tell you this, I've been there and I had survived. Sure I might be lonely at times but I like to communicate with strangers more then the people I know like this forum, it makes me feel safe to say anything and I like that about it. I think of the people in this forum as my friend because they helped me much more then my real friends had previously. You would find your perfect friend in real life someday, just not now but for now, you're not completely alone either. We could be friends if you want to (-:

To find the right guy consists patience so be patient and I'm sure you'll find the one. By the way, high five for watching the ellen show!

Joanne
Posted 11/11/2013 7:12 PM (GMT 0)
I've got friends in my country,i can say very good friends,but depression sometimes makes me forget every positive and beautiful thing i have in my life. Starting a new life it's very hard finally. I agree with you.People in this forum can be good friends :) I would be your friend!

I meditate sometimes,Tomorrow im going to a new psychiatrist.I feel a bit anxious about that but it was about time to take an action.
Posted 11/11/2013 7:39 PM (GMT 0)
A very good action too Jeoch! Good for you, keep up the good fight!

Peace and courage
Trina
Posted 11/11/2013 11:33 PM (GMT 0)
Jeoch-

May I suggest something? I've done this before- when my depression is in full control, forget everything mad everyone I'm grateful for. So, I wrote a list "Grateful things". I did this when my depression was in remission. This way I was fully aware of how big my list would be. When I'm depressed I will tell you that I'm grateful for my kids and job and that's about it. I listed people by name and wrote a little statement about why I was grateful for them. Im also wrote things I'm grateful for- like flowers. My list was long. Then when depression starts to kick in, I'm able to go back over my list, read it and realize all the positive people and things in my life. I know it sounds so simple but it works for me.

Congrats on meeting a new psychiatrist. Let's us know how it went.

I met with my counselor today. I am much better than I was last week. My main problem is that I let anyone and everyone walk all over me. I know I don't like it and I want to change it. I can see the person I want to be. Now I have to figure out how to get there- this may take many sessions! :)

My love to you!
Michele
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