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Posted 3/3/2014 12:32 AM (GMT 0)
Hi all,

I was hoping some of you could ease my obsessive compulsive traits, and worries about if I did the right thing or not.

I recently had an incident of light infidelity - had too much to drink and a guy kissed me.

I completely obsessed about this and hid it from my partner for 2 months. our relationship had been a rocky one with this situation happening in the past, so it manifested into a huge obsessive thinking. Literally consuming me for 2 months straight.

Over the 2 months I tried going to a psychologist for 1 month, but that did not help me at all.

For the past EXACTLY 21 days, i was prescribed cipralex / lexapro. I did 2 days of 5mg, and then 10mg. Therfore I have been on the 10mg for 19 days.

I finally cracked 2 days ago (day 17 of the medication on 10mg) and told my partner what was going on with myself. I had felt an instant relief, and weight off of my shoulders. Even though we decided not to continue it, i feel "OK".



Was this the correct thing to do, or has the medicine finally "KICKED IN" and I made a huge mistake by not giving the medication a bit more time to work before discussing anything with my partner, and now have made an irreversible decision.

I am not sure what to do now, go off the medication, or continue it, was it just the guilt and heavy weight of the relationship which was causing me all the ocd, anxiety and stress, or has the medication finally just started to kick in and I made completely the wrong move my sharing this with my partner.

Thank you.
Posted 3/3/2014 12:47 AM (GMT 0)
Hello ........

   First ... medication and confession ... have nothing to do with each other. That is, the medication didn't somehow force you to confess!

   I like your term ... light infidelity! If what you say is all that happened, it would seem that you could talk this over with your partner ... and without losing the relationship. If it's lost, it sounds like it may not have been worth keeping anyway!

   Regarding the meds, i have been on that exact medication for over 4-months now. The med did not surprise me with anything. It did work ... and you may need to be on it for 4 to 6-weeks before you feel the benefit of that med.

   Sorry about the partner results .... but it shouldn't have ended for that reason .... so maybe there was another reason - and maybe that reason was hidden from you ... by him! Think about it - but not too long!

Be kind to yourself

Rob & Gizmo

 

Posted 3/3/2014 12:52 AM (GMT 0)

Gizzy'n me said...
Hello ........
First ... medication and confession ... have nothing to do with each other. That is, the medication didn't somehow force you to confess!

I like your term ... light infidelity! If what you say is all that happened, it would seem that you could talk this over with your partner ... and without losing the relationship. If it's lost, it sounds like it may not have been worth keeping anyway!
Regarding the meds, i have been on that exact medication for over 4-months now. The med did not surprise me with anything. It did work ... and you may need to be on it for 4 to 6-weeks before you feel the benefit of that med.
Sorry about the partner results .... but it shouldn't have ended for that reason .... so maybe there was another reason - and maybe that reason was hidden from you ... by him! Think about it - but not too long!

Be kind to yourself

Rob & Gizmo


So you do believe that the relief that I am feeling is from the weight off of my shoulders regarding the emotional / guilt that I was feeling, and does not have anything to do with the medication suddenly "kicking in" after only 17 days on 10mg. Its not like this stuff kicks in over night right? I noticed the next morning my side effects were gone, like i didn't feel sick nautious or dizzy.

I guess I am just worried I didn't give the meds long enough to work before making such drastic measures.

It was like I had felt guilty, worthless, I as worrying about absolutely everything in my life, and after we had a talk, it was like. OK things are going to be OK. And the next morning I woke up feeling a lot better.

I'm just worried like maybe the meds finally started to kick in that night, and if I would have just waited my anxiety, depression, ocd, etc. would have suppressed a bit and would have been able to not end the relationship, and discuss other things that were affecting me better.


I guess I just want an answer on - does Lexapro "KICK IN" overnight, or was maybe my inner deamon finally relieved because I discussed this with my partner, and has nothing to do with the meds?
It was weird because I felt hungry and not nautious the next day which I had been feeling for the first 17 days on lexapro.

Post Edited (firsttimessri) : 3/2/2014 6:01:30 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 3/3/2014 1:59 AM (GMT 0)
Or are my symptoms that I am experiencing more leading towards a bi-polar type condition?
I sometimes have the symptoms that I have read about:
racing thoughts, taking on too much, trouble organizing and at work, thinking I can do anything and everything at all times, etc.


I am really scared that I am on SSRI's and they are making me crazy.

I have crazy thoughts and worries, and am not feeling like I am level right now...

IE am i now in a hypomania state right now...
Posted 3/3/2014 2:46 AM (GMT 0)
Practice mindfulness and meditation. That will help you with the thinking. The medications are kind of subtle when they kick in. But I am not saying it didn't kick in, because it could have.

Take it one day at a time hon...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 3/3/2014 2:55 AM (GMT 0)

getting by said...
Practice mindfulness and meditation. That will help you with the thinking. The medications are kind of subtle when they kick in. But I am not saying it didn't kick in, because it could have.

Take it one day at a time hon...

Hugs, Karen...

I feel like this is completely irrational but do you think if I would have just hung in there a bit longer, I would have been able to feel better, and not revealed this to my partner, as I would have calmed out a little bit, or do you think this coincidence is way too rare, and I am just overanalyzing it.

It seems unlikely that one day I would wake up and just start feeling better. I feel like it was the relief from the honesty that made me temporarily feel better.

Or does lexapro one morning just make you feel GOOD!

Im so confused right now. Not sure if I did the right thing. Is it possible that the medication worked on the brink of confessing to my partner, and I have made a huge mistake.
Posted 3/3/2014 3:49 AM (GMT 0)
Can someone please ease my stress that it is highly unlikely that lexapro would "all of the sudden" kick in after day 17 (just over 2 weeks), and I would start feeling normal again.

Or is it most likely that I had figured things out in the relationship which has decreased my stress, depression, and anxiety.

I just want to know that I had made the right decision in being truthful to my partner about the entire circumstance.
Posted 3/3/2014 4:14 AM (GMT 0)

Keep Moving Forward said...
Hey FirstTimeSSRI,

Here's my take on things. When I took Lexapro for the first time, I started feeling benefits within the first couple of weeks. As time progressed, I continued to feel better. I think it's entirely possible that the Lexapro gave you the confidence to do what you already knew that you wanted to do. I think your feeling better is a result of you unburdening your soul, and the Lexapro had kicked in enough to allow you to do it.

Does that make sense?

AND, just my opinion, but if your BF left because you kissed some guy at a party, it really wasn't meant to be. I've kissed friends, family, coworkers, and neighbours - it's not the kiss that's the issue, it's the intent behind the kiss.

Breathe deep and move on, and don't feel guilty - you're not the bad guy here.

Take care FirstTimeSSRI,

C


Keep Moving Forward - thank you.

I guess I am just looking for help to ease my pain.

I think it is completely irrational to think that the lexapro would (the morning after i broke up with my bf) suddenly "MAKE ME BETTER".

I guess it was a conversation that had to be had, regardless of the outcome.

I think my mindset knows that i did the right thing and I am now just searching for reasons to second guess myself - i.e. DID the lexapro all of the sudden make me feel better, and now I want to take back my action. I think that the action actually relieved most of my stress and guilt, and doesn't have to do with the medication.

I guess I am just worried that I brought this up in the transitionary phase of the medication (only after 17 days), but I guess I cannot second guess my actions, and I felt at the time that it was right to explain to them the situation that was going on.
Posted 3/3/2014 11:41 AM (GMT 0)
What has happened, has happened. Have no regrets. I think it was a combination of the lexapro and you getting things out on the table... Either way you are feeling better, so take it at face value, it is what it is...

I hope you continue to feel better. Take life one day (only) at a time...

Hang in there and keep posting, all these things are good for you...

Hugs, Karen...

Happy Monday!!!
Posted 3/4/2014 8:03 PM (GMT 0)

getting by said...
What has happened, has happened. Have no regrets. I think it was a combination of the lexapro and you getting things out on the table... Either way you are feeling better, so take it at face value, it is what it is...

I hope you continue to feel better. Take life one day (only) at a time...

Hang in there and keep posting, all these things are good for you...

Hugs, Karen...

Happy Monday!!!

very needed reaffirmation. Thank you Karen.
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