Feels Like Nobody Cares

It is hard to have friends to care when you are alone... When you are a loner... I go though the same thing. We can't really expect others to care if we don't share... I just depend on myself and I get by okay. I think in time you will be able to be the same way. It can be empty though... Very lonely. But I have my dog, my hubby... Me...

To me it sounds like you might be wanting some companionship. Maybe you should open up to people and see where it gets you. Know that you always have the risk of someone not wanting to talk about things, but there is only one way to find out.

Don't be like me... Make friends, have companionship...

Hugs, Karen...

Hello .......

   You know - there ain't one thing wrong with takin a day off every so often. In fact .... I think it's good for you.

   It's very likely that nearly all of us on the Depression Forum are introverts. It kind of goes with the territory. My previous family of four was made up of 2-introverts, 1-semi-introvert and 1-extrovert. We function differently with some things - but we're not all that different.

   Of course, if you ever decide to always take a day off - every day, that's not so good. It's actually giving up ... and then you'de be abandoning life!

   I don't know if you are or ever have seen a therapist. It's worthwhile at least - and sometimes helps tremendously to get our head on straight - or to get re-directed in life.

   Try sometime, to write a list of things you're grateful for in life - no matter how small or large. Read it a couple of times to yourself ... then see if you can think in a negative or a positive mode about most anything!

   Oh yeah .... except for at least one of three dogs, I've lived alone for the past 23-years and alone with stage #4 cancer for over 3-years.

Being alone can be beaten!!!!

Peace and wellness

Rob & Gizmo

 

Thank you everyone for your responses. I feel better knowing I have people I can talk to here who understand the depression and wanting to be alone. I am single, no pets, no significant other. So, I'm alone most of the time which I don't know if that is part of why I feel so down or not. I forced myself to go to a birthday party last night for my two brother-in-laws and stood on the outer edge looking in the whole evening. Don't have things going on in my life to talk about and no kids to talk about or anything like that so just felt like a real outsider even with my family. I am having serious issues with my sister-in-law as well (no longer on speaking terms) and she was with MY family last night and they were all talking to her and laughing. I feel somewhat betrayed by my family I think as well today for not being on MY side. Now that I type it out, I think that is a large part of what is going on that I cannot tell my family how betrayed I feel and have no one else to talk to. Dang family stuff stinks sometimes and so does this depression. I am spiraling down and don't feel like I have any control over it or any control over my life. I am feeling abandoned and alone.

someone once gave me this to remind me to step out of myself.

Q - QUIT
T - TAKING
I - IT
P - PERSONALLY

hard to do when we are depressed, however life does goes on around us. Good job getting to the party, I know that was hard work. Next step is to get into a conversation someone was having. You do not have to have what someone else has to talk about the subject. Interest and eye contact usually is enough.

Peace
Trina

Karen - you are not being too harsh. You said things I need to hear. You are right, I am the one with the problem with my sister-in-law and I will have to deal with it on my own.

As for my self-esteem, it has always been issue so nothing new there.

I guess I will have to struggle along on my own since I don't feel I can talk to my family. They would not understand. I know they care but just don't want them worrying about me and would not completely understand about my sister-in-law and me. They have made it obvious they don't want to hear it by their actions and words.

I cannot do therapy as I cannot afford it. I live paycheck to paycheck and that is all I can do.

I am not a selfish person but am trying to take care of me by staying alone. It is the only thing I feel I can do that I have control over.

Yeah, I feel similar.

I was ill for a long time with Crohn's disease and during the last few years I did not give a rat's ass about being alone. However, I had surgery which made me "better" (in subtle inverted commas), and all the problems I had so diligently ignored when sick and in pain came back to haunt me a hundred-fold. I was angry with my wider family for not appearing to give a darn about my disease (several hospitalisations and one major surgery, and not even a get well card from any of them).

All my loneliness has come back as well. I too have no significant other, no children, pets etc. I think it plays a big part in my depression, because what do I have? Nothing. I'm still living at home with my elderly parents: I can't even stand my dad. I don't have any stake in society whatsoever; no ties to a family or larger community.

As far as wanting to be alone is concerned, it's a normal reaction to rejection. Even babies do it: they turn their faces away when they have been left to cry alone for too long. I feel like I have been spending my entire life doing that: I'm extremely sensitive to rejection, but I think life made me that way to be honest. Anyway, I try not to inflict my neediness onto other people and mostly succeed, apart from occasional failures... :-/