down and out; need a new outlook

I've had a friend for the last 13 years. When we met she told me that she was married but not really because they lead separate lives. He is an an alcoholic and non existent in her life. She didn't file for
divorce because she would have to pay him spousal support. He would jump from job to job. So, we became
very close early on. We were intimate one time only and it was terrible. No emotion, on her part. Like
an empty soul. We then continued to see one another on weekends mostly having lunch together. And
we did numerous construction projects together since she owns rentals and I have construction
experience. There is much, much, more to the story however, I'm trying to keep this short. Last October,
she filed for legal separation and received it. During that time, she avoided me
and I thought I'd give her space because she was having a hard time. Two months ago, I spent 3 days in the hospital and she came to visit. After leaving the hospital I never heard from her again. Long story short, she has dumped me and is now dating someone else. I saw them together last night and it has put me into major depression.
I've never dealt with such a deep heartache. And, I've had many negative events happen in my 58 years.
I'm having a hard time just putting one foot in front of the other.

Post Edited (Samson Kid) : 5/4/2014 9:15:58 AM (GMT-6)

I'm aware of the steps to move on. Thanks. But, I'm not sleeping, food doesn't taste good, and have no interest in doing anything other than daily chores.

I'm now in this major depressive state that continues on and on. My friend base is almost non-existent. I have one friend that calls to see how I'm doing. I did overlook the fact that she was married
no matter how negative the marriage was. Bad idea! My father once told me to never, ever, get involved with a married woman! She will dump you at a moments notice. Did I listen? No, and now
I'm paying the price.

I liked the fact that we were best friends and would help one another. I didn't think I'd suffer such deep
depression if we ever stopped seeing one another. I apparently loved her more than I thought or, it's
the realization that she has now moved with someone else and is longer spending time with me.

Post Edited (Samson Kid) : 5/4/2014 9:23:16 AM (GMT-6)

Samson,

It is natural to be depressed at a time like this. However, to isolate and push your friends away is a little more than normal behavior.

I would suggest talking to your GP about your depression. It may be situational depression or it may be triggering something else that you might have to deal with to move on.

In the mean time, get yourself outside and at least walk for 10min a day. This will help lift your mood a little.

Peace and courage
Trina

I'm seeing a therapist once a week for 50 minutes. I do most of the talking so I don't know where the therapy comes in. The therapist was playing with her nails during the last visit. I don't know if I should
say something since it would involve starting new with another therapist. Do I say something?

It really seems like everything is going wrong at the moment.

Post Edited (Samson Kid) : 5/4/2014 1:26:16 PM (GMT-6)

You don't. It is a risk everybody take s. How do they know you would t do th same thing.

Talk to your therapist and take things one day at a time.

Hugs Karen