Help. No one takes me seriously

Hi,
I just finished writing about how many people really don't under what we go through. They don't know how much effort it takes to get up and go through daily activities.

What you are feeling is real. I just stopped talking about it. I never told my family only a couple of friends and never gave the complete story for fear of being judged. Go see a therapist or a psych dr. Post here. Everyone is understanding and compassionate.

Call the hotline. I did. One night when the crying was out of control and I didn't know what else to do. I wanted to go some for help but ended up talking. It helped. There have been several other times I have just wanted to go into a day program.

I did join a group therapy for a while. It was pretty good. I'm thinking about going back.

Yes it feels bad when folks don't understand so don't engage them in what is going on. Turn to a professional or a group like this where everyone understands. You can get some great advice here as well.

I don't talk about my depression much either to people. I really don't want others to know. I would get that therapy that you need. Take care of you...

I hope that things get better soon.

Hugs, Karen...

Well said everyone. You all are the best. R.e.l, keel posting here. Very supportive place.

NikkiScorpio said...
What you are feeling is absolutely real. Don't let anyone minimize that. Unfortunately, there is such a stigma surrounding mental illness, especially mental illness in younger people. People think that younger people shouldn't be "sick" and because they're young, that there absolutely can't be anything wrong. This fight of ours, is hard, as is usually solitary. But it doesn't have to be. You can get online and talk to people like you, who understand you, and are going through the exact same things. You are not alone and you do NOT deserve to have your feelings belittled. Don't let anyone make you doubt yourself. Depression is hard enough without people like that making it worse.

I AGREE 150%!!....Young people can get written off very easily. When I was as a young teen, I would go into uncontrollable crying fits brought on by loneliness, sadness, hopelessness, and feeling bullied. ( I didn't understand them and was not diagnosed at the time) I got a negative reaction and was told to "shut up" "stop that" "its just your hormones" and other things. I remember crying in a parents face sobbing "please help me, please help I can't stop crying and I am in pain and need someone" and getting a nasty scowl in return and being yelled at...It makes no sense to me looking back. I remember where I was and everything...Why did I get that reaction?? I am not mad at them anymore about it but it still disturbs me. And now I know it was not hormones since It is still very real and apart of life 15 years later.

But I was a fortunate one . There are so many young people who get that reaction and take very drastic measures. I am thankful I was not a statistic but I hurt for kids who could have been helped if someone would have just stopped and listened and taken them seriously! Now anytime someone I know shows signs I take them very seriously! Some people want attention and are dramatic but you can't paint that wide brush over everyone. It could mean life or death for some people. Better safe and to treat people with love and understanding

I hear ya!!! I am 56. My husband wouldn't/won't recognize peri menopause, menopause, PTSD, or my depression. He just looks the other way. I don't even try to explain it to his kids. Who now hate me because I can't control my emotions. The depression is painful enough. But having the one you love ignore you & it, is .............. there are no words!!! He knows I have been kidnapped & raped (though before his time w/ me), he knows there have been 3 suicides in my family. He has 3 daughters, 2 sisters, a mother, & an Ex wife, he must know menopause isn't just in my head. He was in the Navy, he must know PTSD does exist. But he still treats me like it is all in my head, & I can just turn if off if I only wanted to. Like it is a choice.

ShariBB said...
I googled Dr. Oz & the natural anti depressant I thought I heard him mention yesterday. All I found was something more for weight lose. Did anyone else see this? Know what he just recommended as a good natural anti depressant? Or did I dream it? I am not computer literate :(, so finding things can be challenging!!!

Fun fact: eating a handful of cashews is supposed to have great anti-depressant powers. From one of my health buff friends. Also have heard about taking St Johns wort

Here is a link to the Dr Oz page you may have been looking for =)

www.doctoroz.com/videos/best-natural-anti-depressants

It always leads back to exercise and eating right...that is unfortunate for me because my depression is directly tied to over eating. I have a very very hard time not over eating. When I am very sad I eat...when I get happy bursts...I eat in celebration....If bored...I eat as well to pass time and stimulate my senses. Combine that with a hard time getting out of bed sometimes and oh boy! None of my clothes fit anymore

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I am sorry you have a similar problem as me. I can't fathom being married and my dearest loved one not acknowledging my depression. He might have that thing my family and I carry in our genes. It isn't that we don't care or love you very much, We are just mentally incapable of handling certain problems and chose not to deal with things to preserve our own feelings. (a shut down mechanism, don't ask me , don't tell me) My dad's dad invented it in the 20s I think lol.

It is no way to live and quiet selfish but I see it all the time with my family and I will start doing the same thing when things get too "heavy" to handle from a certain person. It is more on my dads side of the family. My brother and I are dad clones when it comes to emotional detachment. We maintain our sanity by pretending everyone else is just fine even if it is far from true. Where is my mom and other brother are emotional leaches who are very dependent and want to talk about every problem in the world and about suck the life out of you with their issues that they have caused themselves from poor and hasty decision making. I have one extreme to the other. I am sort of caught in the middle some days.

I am sort of forever single myself. I have dumped many a good guy because I have a block and wall that always comes up after a certain amount of months, each relationship got shorter and shorter. I tell people "I didn't see a future" or some bull but the truth is I can't stand being around people for very extended periods of time and thought of living with someone seems like torture. Not in a mean way...just in a "I guess I am meant to be alone" way. I am 27 and already telling kids to get off my lawn and grumpy about how the good old days are gone hehe . I wouldn't rule out someone who could break that cycle but they better be ok with sleeping in another room or living in another house (strange me!)

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