Alone and lonely

We understand Sheila...

Do you go to any therapy? If not, I would highly suggest it. You can work on your issues well with a therapist. Try not to isolate. Reach out to your friends and family. Coming here is a start.

I do the same thing lately. I have been spending a lot of time in bed. Today I can't though, I have a doctor's appointment. So I have to go out. I will also go to the store on the way, and maybe stop at the farmer's market on the way home.

Try to get out for a short walk at least. It really makes us feel better. Try to hook up some counseling if you aren't already. Talking to somebody on occasion really does help. And working on coping skills.

I hope that you feel better soon. Welcome to the forum. You are among friends here.

Hugs, Karen...

Please ..........

Reach out ...... to  therapist!

   I could very easily write a book on "alone and lonely". Many of us can! But, it's what you do with the problems you have that matters.

   Yeah, i was an only child. My parents always did fun things for them - not for me. I had three father figures thru childhood - mother was divorced twice.

   Then I was divorced and with two kids. In the last 20-years, every person in my immediate family has died - except my two kids. One moved 1200-miles away - and the other one uses me for money. She never calls me.

   I won't go into my kidney, breathing or cancer problems .... but I understand when no one calls you. I always have to be the one to call. Everyone seems to have someone ..... except me!

   Now ..... either you do something about it .... or accept it and stop complaining. See a counselor .... maybe a talk pschologist to start out. You'll be amazed at how much help that can be.

   We all need help, in some ways, while going thru life. It just makes sense to seek that help. Life can be so much more fun by doing so.

Peace and wellness

Rob & Gizmo

 

I do the same thing. I think most of us do. It isn't healthy but it s easy. Then you don't have to talk to anyone about it.

Sheila, I hope things are better today...

Hugs, Karen...

ShariBB and Sensitive Sheila

I'm sorry you've gotta go through that. I know what's it's like to live with someone, love them, give everything you got to make sure they're happy then have them pull out away from you and leave you feeling lost and empty. Empty for other people empty about life. I know the feeling of not wanting to get out of the house, even for a walk or just to get the mail. Inside the house is safe, it's familiar, it's a place where even though bad stuff happened there you're still alone with yourself. Shari, you can't forget him and want to be with him so much even though you know it's bad and it'll hurt worse later because that place inside you (that you too shared) has been ripped away and left empty because he left. That place needs to be filled someday with someone else, someone better. That won't happen right away. How do I trust another person in that place? How can I share my life with someone else when I'll just get left and crushed again? They say it's better to loved and lost than to never loved at all but we both know that's pure BS. I can't give you the answer on how to get out of the house, of how to find that replacement for that empty space he left. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. Sheila I also know how it is when family and friends abandon you to where no one calls to see how you are to see how you feel. Again I have no answers, I wish I did, but I can tell you too that you are not alone either.